I Hate Jill Zarin Kelly is a 13-year old girl May 22, 2010
Well we’ve had a few days to digest Thursday’s episode and the number of blogs and articles are far too many to mention. So many people are talking about Kelly and her behavior. Is this exactly what Kelly wanted? Remember her crazy PR101 rule? She is getting plenty of publicity and according to her, good or bad it makes no difference as long as your name is out there.
Kelly is claiming that she is using her renewed notoriety to be more charitable. This may sound a bit crazy (how ironic) but I do get what she’s saying. If no one knows who you are, you certainly cannot collect huge amounts of money for charity. If they do know your name, even if it is for a negative reason, you are more likely to get donations when you ask for them. Will it work? No, because that is not what Kelly is truly after with her notoriety, what Kelly wants is personal gain, more “gigs” and to be a superstar. She thinks of herself as an “A” list celebrity and wants to prove it.
Many people who have come under fire in the press or on TV for something that they’ve done, go into hiding, Kelly is more present than ever! Her Twitter goes without a break. (I do believe she is addicted to Twitter) She is doing interviews about her behavior and the show. She did do one interview with NYMag.com that was touted as Kelly’s side of the story, it told us nothing!
Her overwhelming need to explain herself rather than just laying low and quiet is not how a mature 41 year old woman would act, it is how a 13 year old child would act.
A comment on my previous blog said it best, Olivia talked about Kelly’s behavior toward Bethenny and it made it so clear that Kelly’s behavior is simply mean and hateful. Kelly has hated Bethenny since they met. If what Kelly is telling us is true, they first formally met at the charity meeting for Jill’s function. Of course, we know Bethenny’s story about the two meeting a few other times at parties and Kelly completely ignoring Bethenny but doting on B’s boyfriend and Tommy Hilfiger. This is the infamous charity meeting where Bethenny called Kelly “Madonna” and told her she comes from a place of “no”.
I believe every word of Kelly focusing on the men and ignoring the women. There have been too many claims of this behavior. First it was Bethenny telling us about the Tommy Hilfiger party. Luann talked about it at last year’s reunion, stating that Kelly not only ignored Luann at parties, but turned and walked in the other direction when she saw her. Kelly didn’t even deny these reports, Kelly rather made excuses like maybe she was doing something else, or maybe she just didn’t want to talk to Luann. Sonja had a similar story about meeting Kelly. So we know that Kelly is not a “girl’s girl”.
Why is her venom and hatred so focused on Bethenny? Is it really? We saw at the dinner Kelly treating Ramona in two completely different ways. In the kitchen of the villa as Kelly was walking out to go workout, she gave Ramona a really nice compliment saying what a great person she was. “and I know good people” Kelly said. What was that about? I believe it was more a slam at Bethenny than anything else but it also served the purpose of trying to get Ramona on her side. Remember, Kelly is feeling like they’re all against her, like it is four against one.
At the crazy dinner, when Ramona began to try to defend Bethenny for being on a vacation when her father had just passed away, Kelly didn’t want to hear it. As Ramona started to tell the story of her going on a trip shortly after her own mother passed away, Kelly rudely cut her off and gave her the “close mouth” hand signal. Surprisingly, Ramona did zip it! (unless that was just clever editing)
Ramona and Kelly got into it at Jill’s Kodak event, Ramona didn’t take that nonsense from Kelly that night, in fact, Ramona told Kelly to “shut up”. Finally ending the conversation with, “I can’t talk to you, you have no brain”. Kelly’s reaction after Ramona walked away was what interested me, she repeated what Ramona said but in a mocking sort of baby voice, sort of like a 13 year old would do.
Kelly’s entire persona is that of a 13 year old girl, the gummy bears and lollypops, the cartwheels that are free and her lack of empathy. I can also see a 13-year old girl being completely disgusted by people wanting to discuss their feelings. Kelly thinks that is so old fashioned. During the season 2 reunion, Kelly berated Bethenny for crying all the time. Part of Kelly’s interview that Andy Cohen read during the reunion listed all of Kelly’s accomplishments and went on to say that she was real while Bethenny was not, extremely immature.
Kelly’s use of the words, creepy, gross and like is very childish. She uses the word “literally” incorrectly all the time. She says she has nightmares that Bethenny is “literally” trying to kill her. She accused Bethenny of trying to kill her several times. Kelly said that Bethenny was “going after” her little girls. I have searched and searched and cannot find any interview or article where Bethenny goes after anyone’s children, or even Kelly herself for that matter. Kelly overuses words like “amazing”.
The fact that she is unaware of certain terminology and common knowledge sayings could also be compared to a 13-year old girl. She didn’t understand stomping on grapes, eating crow or Bethenny’s impression of Jack Nicholson’s “You can’t handle the truth”. There have been many similar situations over the course of the past two seasons with Kelly, she just doesn’t “get it”!
Her reaction whenever sex or sexuality is mentioned is very childlike. When Andy Cohen brought up Jill’s breast surgery at the 2nd season reunion, Kelly blushed and said, “Andy!”, and that wasn’t even directed toward her. We all watched her call anyone who has a one-night stand a “ho-bag”. It was directed toward Bethenny, even though Sonja brought up the subject and was clearly advocating the practice even told Kelly that she should try it. Yet Bethenny is the one who got called a “ho-bag”. Kelly’s behavior during the interview in the restaurant with the man writing the article for Playboy was also very similar to a young girl. The way that she giggled, played with her hair and the ridiculous flirting was all very immature. She acted the same way with Max last season. Her discussion with Luann about dating and how they have to “do something” and not just go out to dinner even took Luann by surprise. Kelly’s response to sex and any discussion of sexuality is always the same, embarrassed and uncomfortable, sort of like a 13-year old girl in a sex education class.
Kelly talks like a 13-year old girl…hiiiiiiiiiiii Byeeeeeeeeee Yeahhhhhhhh <gag>
Remember the Peta thing? She can wear fur, no one can stop her, this is America and it’s her choice! Her quote “Peta isn’t saying don’t wear fur, they are saying don’t abuse animals” was just about the most immature thing she’s ever said on the show! I truly believe that none of the fur discussion with Kelly would have ever come up if Bethenny hadn’t done the Peta ad. I mean, all of the NY women wear fur, they just don’t talk about it but Kelly felt the need to discuss it on camera.
The way that Kelly constantly interrupted everyone at the dinner party, told everyone to “zip it” and the “white noise” rolling her eyes at every turn, saying the food wasn’t that good, name dropping and calling real celebrities her friends, again, the behavior of a 13-year old girl with a bad attitude.
The meeting that we saw of Kelly with her girls at dinner when Kelly wanted to discuss the Playboy issue with them was odd, to say the least. I can understand one misunderstanding but there were a few that we saw when her one of her children said something and she didn’t understand what they were saying. Her youngest said “you work hard for us.” This is a nice compliment from a young child to her mother. The fact that the child recognized that her mother works to give her children what they have shows the child’s maturity. Unfortunately, Kelly didn’t get it, she said, “I’m hard on you?” When both girls corrected Kelly, she still said, “oh that’s nice!”. Kelly was being sarcastic. She just didn’t get it!
She won’t let things go. She is still bringing up the Madonna thing and the “place of no” thing. This is extremely immature and something that we learn as we grow older that life is too short to keep bringing up the past. On a few different occasions, Kelly said it is over, even spelling out O-V-E-R. She continually says she doesn’t care, doesn’t care about anything! She brings something up and when someone responds to her, she says she doesn’t care. All very immature!
When you think of “mean girls” typically that would be a group of teenaged girls who we all know have the reputation of having bad attitudes, immature behavior, absolutely no empathy, they typically pick on one or two of the other girls to the point of being vicious and cruel. They can be rude and disrespectful and don’t care about any consequences for their actions. I found it telling that Luann, in her blog, wrote that Kelly’s lack of empathy makes her a poor girl friend.
When mean girls grow into women, hopefully they learn to be empathetic, are embarrassed by their behavior and become good, loving woman. In Kelly’s case, maybe she wasn’t the mean girl, maybe she was the girl that all of the other girls picked on and berated. Maybe Kelly was the target of the mean girls. I have yet to see any article or blog or interview about Kelly’s childhood. We know she has two parents and a twin brother. She never talks about her family or growing up. The only thing she ever says is that she is from the Midwest.
So why does Kelly act like a 13-year old girl? That is a question for a mind with more education than mine. There are a lot of theories out there. There are even people who are trained and educated in psychology who have theories. There are twin theories, psychological illness theories, acting theories and even theories that she is doing all of this on purpose to get publicity.
There is one that I heard that I found fascinating. Anyone who is familiar with drug and alcohol addiction knows the theory that when the addict begins recovery, they will revert to the age in their mind of when they first began their addictive behavior. In other words, if I am 20-years old and start taking and become addicted to drugs, then when I am 30, I go into rehab and get off the drugs. My mind is like that of a 20-year old, even though I am 30 years old. Maybe Kelly started to take drugs in her teen years and recently stopped? Maybe she continues to take drugs and her immaturity is due to that?
Clearly, I have no idea why Kelly behaves the way that she does. Maybe no one knows, maybe Kelly doesn’t even know. What I do see is a 41 year old woman acting like a teenager.
Possibly Kelly sees Bethenny as the “lead mean girl”.