I Hate Jill Zarin Yes I do June 20, 2010
People have asked my why do you have to use the word, “hate” in your blog, why do you hate someone you’ve never met. Honestly only a very few have asked me that, most people who watch Jill Zarin on The Real Housewives of New York completely understand. As a group of Jill Zarin un-fans, we’ve actually made lists of things that she’s done, lies that she’s told, excuses that she’s made for her bad behavior. It’s all been done and it is all true!
Recently with the Reunion show airing we learned even a few more things that could in and of itself make a normal human being hate Jill Zarin. The woman called her cast mates and told them not to film scenes on the show with Bethenny Frankel. Yes, the Bethenny Frankel that Jill Zarin apologized to over and over and over again on the Reunion shows. The Bethenny Frankel that Jill Zarin cried over and over again for the loss of their friendship. The same Bethenny that Jill made a fool of herself over by asking for a hug. This is the same Jill Zarin that told Bethenny Frankel, “I miss you” several times.
So this is how Jill Zarin treats her friends. Ok, Jill was angry with Bethenny, fine, nothing wrong with that. Jill wanted to hold onto her grudge longer than most, but for most people that just means not talking to the person that you’re angry with. Jill Zarin decided to bring out the big guns and take aim at Bethenny’s heart. Jill was clearly jealous that Bethenny got her own show. We all know the rest of the story, Jill treated Bethenny like complete shit and there was not one ounce of compassion for Bethenny anywhere in Jill’s non-existent heart!
To me, this is reason enough to hate Jill Zarin. Yes, she is on a reality television show, yes she is someone that I do not personally know, yes, she is under the pressure of having cameras follow her around. The last one was rather lame, but I’m trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.
Even with all of the excuses in the world, Jill cannot wipe away the way the way that she treated Bethenny, Alex and even Ramona. Jill acts like a spoiled child. How many times has she said to Ramona, “I thought you were my friend, I guess I was wrong.” This is something kids in Jr. High school say to each other.
The woman is cruel, deviant, hypocritical, vicious, and just downright mean. She may need psychological help even more than Kelly does. We’ve all analyzed and discussed trying to figure out why she is the way that she is. Bethenny told us that she used to be mothering and nurturing and that may have been true but Jill has had this scheming, mean and viciousness inside of her all this time, she just chose to hide it. We saw bits of it here and there in past seasons and we saw how she uses the press to attack her cast mates.
She claims that she didn’t have any friends back in school when she was growing up, maybe that is why she is the way she is now. Kelly may be annoying and make you want to pull your hair out one by one, but she’s not nearly as vicious as Jill Zarin. Kelly may beat the hell out of you but Jill will kick you while you’re down, shove you into the gutter then steal the Christian Louboutin’s off your feet.
Sure, I could call the blog, “I Don’t Like Jill Zarin” but I’m not a wimp, I don’t do things half-assed, if I’m going to go there, I’m going to go there I am a passionate person and that is it!
If that still isn’t enough for some people, if someone still doesn’t get it, I recently read a post on my blog that I have to share with all of you. This is someone else’s reason to hate Jill Zarin. There are plenty to go around, that’s for sure. I want to share this very personal post with you now:
“I want to share my reason why I HATE Jill Zarin. Cancer has personally devastated me and my family.My father died of prostate cancer. My uncle is dying of lung cancer. My cousin is dying from Leukemia. My aunt is battling breast cancer. I am going for a biopsy to see if I have uterine cancer. Cancer surrounds me.
Jill is a woman who has everything but she can’t be happy unless she is destroying others. It sickens me that she tried to play her husbands’ cancer as a weapon to destroy Bethenny. She cheapened her husband’s illness for personal gain.
I can imagine how scared Bobby must have been when he was diagnosed. But, his fame seeking wife was busy partying with the likes of Jon Gosling and Perez Hilton. Then she used this awful disease as a tool to try to destroy a fellow cast-mates’ reputation and cast her as a cold unfeeling witch. Well we got to see who the real cold and unfeeling witch really was. It’s Jill.
I’m sorry but for that fact and that fact alone I will never forgive her. Cancer is too real for too many people. I wouldn’t have expected Jill to don sackcloth and ashes while Bobby was going through his illness. But her antics, partying, and using the illness the way she did just sickens me.
I don’t understand how anyone who has experienced cancer personally or has had a family member suffer from it could treat it so callously. To use it as a weapon to hurt another is unfathomable to me. To use it for personal gain is vile. Cancer is too devastating and hurtful to do that. It diminishes everyone who’s life has been touched or destroyed by cancer.
What Jill did was evil and I don’t get why people can be so forgiving of her. It is bad enough to harbor jealousy toward another, it quite another thing to use a horrendous disease as a tool to destroy someone. Her remorse and apologies seem fake and ring hollow to me. Now she has turned her attacks onto Alex. There is nothing redeeming about this woman.
I’m happy that her husband is well. I’m glad she doesn’t know what it is like to see the person you love being eaten alive by the disease. I’m glad she hasn’t had to experience chemo treatments that make you so ill that you vomit so hard that you bring up blood and break the blood vessels surrounding your eyes. I’m glad Jill hasn’t had to be afraid to touch her loved one. Because that one touch causes such excruciating pain that they breakout in a cold sweat and scream from the pain of it. I’m glad Jill hasn’t had to sit by her loved ones side while they are so heavily sedated because that is the only way to help them cope with the pain. I’m glad Jill has never seen the weight and hair lose that accompanies the disease and chemo treatments. I’m glad that Jill hasn’t had to see her loved one hooked to tubes and needles all over their body. Needles to carry nourishment because they can’t tolerate food much less feed themselves. Needles that carry the medicines and pain relievers to their body. Tubes to help them breath and urinate. I’m glad that Jill has never experienced the guilt that comes from praying for your loved ones death. A death that you don’t want because you don’t know how you will cope without them. But a death that will finally end the pain and suffering that your loved one will finally have. I’m glad that Jill has never seen or experienced the one they love transform from a vibrant person to a hollow shell of themselves.
Jill has many thing she should be glad and thankful for. Her attacks at Bethenny and Alex are petty and vindictive. She says she has changed and she is sorry. Her attacks at Alex shows she hasn’t changed. Her apologies ring false. She uses cancer as a tool and a weapon. What more will this petty, vile woman stoop to win the sick game she’s playing?
I do hate Jill Zarin. I was once a fan but she destroyed that. She has a lot to atone for. She can and does throw as much money as she wants towards charity. It is nothing more than free advertising and PR for her. Maybe if she donated her time and actually worked at a hospice or hospital cancer ward she would get it. But knowing her she would show up with cameras and only do it for the PR. Yes I hate Jill. And I LOVE Lynn’s site.”
I don’t know how anyone can argue against this point of view, I really don’t. To think that this is just one of the horrible vicious things that Jill Zarin has done and how it can affect so many lives that have been devastated by this horrible disease.
Jill is also jumping on Kelly’s “Bullying” bandwagon. This is another serious issue that has impacted children and young adults throughout the country. It infuriates me that these women talk about it like it is something that they’ve experienced on this TV show. There is no way anyone is going to convince me that Kelly was bullied on St. John by Alex, Bethenny, Sonja and Ramona. I truly believe that if Sonja saw one ounce of bullying, she would have been sitting on the other couch at that reunion, I really do.
I don’t doubt for one moment that Jill was traumatized when the women didn’t welcome her with open arms when she surprised them on St. John. Clearly, she didn’t think it through when she planned her surprise. The phone call the night before that Ramona and Bethenny made to Jill should have given her pause to reconsider her plan. That wasn’t a case of being bullied either, it was a case of poor decision making and the results were in direct proportion to that decision.
In any case, I don’t think that people who question the name of the blog really get it. I know many of them don’t read the blog, if they did, they would see that not every blog is about Jill Zarin, in some cases her name isn’t even mentioned. I blog about the RHONY, we’ve discussed all of the women on the show, I blog about Top Chef and Bethenny’s Getting Married? And will continue to expand to other shows if people are interested.
The NY Post (correction NYMag) web site has a blog about The Real Housewives of New York, the blog had a section every week called, “Reasons Why Jill Zarin is a Despicable Person” or something like that…are people harassing that writer? I’ve read dozens of blogs, articles and comments from people who hate Jill Zarin, don’t like Jill Zarin or find her to be a horrible person, have all of those people met Jill Zarin?
At the beginning of the reunion, Jill told Bethenny that she has changed, she even added that “you’ll see it today”. Jill clearly had a plan to show everyone that she had changed. The problem is she couldn’t pull it off. Her plan was to take ownership of all of her mistakes and apologize for them. It was working for a while too, she was behaving well and saying all the right things. The one thing that Jill couldn’t do at the reunion however was to be civil to Alex. Her tone of voice, the horrible faces that she made and the vicious words that flew toward Alex showed me, Bethenny and the two million viewers that Jill Zarin has not changed, simply changed her target.
And so, the name of the blog will not change, many of you found this site because of its name, but the people who read and post here are not “haters”. This is the nicest, warmest, most welcoming group of people that I have ever had the privilege to have been a part of. The regular people who post comments here are so supportive of one another and have some amazing stories to tell. From an 18-year old, wise beyond her years, young lady to some “mature” ladies that have a lifetime of experiences to share with everyone to even a few guys who have made us laugh and brought us things to think about.
Until Next Time……