I Hate Jill Zarin Yes I Do! June 20, 2010

I Hate Jill Zarin               Yes I do                    June 20, 2010

People have asked my why do you have to use the word, “hate” in your blog, why do you hate someone you’ve never met.  Honestly only a very few have asked me that, most people who watch Jill Zarin on The Real Housewives of New York completely understand.  As a group of Jill Zarin un-fans, we’ve actually made lists of things that she’s done, lies that she’s told, excuses that she’s made for her bad behavior.  It’s all been done and it is all true! 

Recently with the Reunion show airing we learned even a few more things that could in and of itself make a normal human being hate Jill Zarin.  The woman called her cast mates and told them not to film scenes on the show with Bethenny Frankel.  Yes, the Bethenny Frankel that Jill Zarin apologized to over and over and over again on the Reunion shows.  The Bethenny Frankel that Jill Zarin cried over and over again for the loss of their friendship.  The same Bethenny that Jill made a fool of herself over by asking for a hug.  This is the same Jill Zarin that told Bethenny Frankel, “I miss you” several times. 

So this is how Jill Zarin treats her friends.  Ok, Jill was angry with Bethenny, fine, nothing wrong with that.  Jill wanted to hold onto her grudge longer than most, but for most people that just means not talking to the person that you’re angry with.  Jill Zarin decided to bring out the big guns and take aim at Bethenny’s heart.  Jill was clearly jealous that Bethenny got her own show.  We all know the rest of the story, Jill treated Bethenny like complete shit and there was not one ounce of compassion for Bethenny anywhere in Jill’s non-existent heart! 

To me, this is reason enough to hate Jill Zarin.  Yes, she is on a reality television show, yes she is someone that I do not personally know, yes, she is under the pressure of having cameras follow her around.  The last one was rather lame, but I’m trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. 

Even with all of the excuses in the world, Jill cannot wipe away the way the way that she treated Bethenny, Alex and even Ramona.  Jill acts like a spoiled child.  How many times has she said to Ramona, “I thought you were my friend, I guess I was wrong.”  This is something kids in Jr. High school say to each other. 

The woman is cruel, deviant, hypocritical, vicious, and just downright mean.  She may need psychological help even more than Kelly does.  We’ve all analyzed and discussed trying to figure out why she is the way that she is.  Bethenny told us that she used to be mothering and nurturing and that may have been true but Jill has had this scheming, mean and viciousness inside of her all this time, she just chose to hide it.  We saw bits of it here and there in past seasons and we saw how she uses the press to attack her cast mates.

She claims that she didn’t have any friends back in school when she was growing up, maybe that is why she is the way she is now.   Kelly may be annoying and make you want to pull your hair out one by one, but she’s not nearly as vicious as Jill Zarin.  Kelly may beat the hell out of you but Jill will kick you while you’re down, shove you into the gutter then steal the Christian Louboutin’s off your feet. 

Sure, I could call the blog, “I Don’t Like Jill Zarin” but I’m not a wimp, I don’t do things half-assed, if I’m going to go there, I’m going to go there I am a passionate person and that is it! 

If that still isn’t enough for some people, if someone still doesn’t get it, I recently read a post on my blog that I have to share with all of you.  This is someone else’s reason to hate Jill Zarin.  There are plenty to go around, that’s for sure.  I want to share this very personal post with you now:

“I want to share my reason why I HATE Jill Zarin. Cancer has personally devastated me and my family.My father died of prostate cancer. My uncle is dying of lung cancer. My cousin is dying from Leukemia. My aunt is battling breast cancer. I am going for a biopsy to see if I have uterine cancer. Cancer surrounds me.

Jill is a woman who has everything but she can’t be happy unless she is destroying others. It sickens me that she tried to play her husbands’ cancer as a weapon to destroy Bethenny. She cheapened her husband’s illness for personal gain.

I can imagine how scared Bobby must have been when he was diagnosed. But, his fame seeking wife was busy partying with the likes of Jon Gosling and Perez Hilton. Then she used this awful disease as a tool to try to destroy a fellow cast-mates’ reputation and cast her as a cold unfeeling witch. Well we got to see who the real cold and unfeeling witch really was. It’s Jill.

I’m sorry but for that fact and that fact alone I will never forgive her. Cancer is too real for too many people. I wouldn’t have expected Jill to don sackcloth and ashes while Bobby was going through his illness. But her antics, partying, and using the illness the way she did just sickens me.

I don’t understand how anyone who has experienced cancer personally or has had a family member suffer from it could treat it so callously. To use it as a weapon to hurt another is unfathomable to me. To use it for personal gain is vile. Cancer is too devastating and hurtful to do that. It diminishes everyone who’s life has been touched or destroyed by cancer.

What Jill did was evil and I don’t get why people can be so forgiving of her. It is bad enough to harbor jealousy toward another, it quite another thing to use a horrendous disease as a tool to destroy someone. Her remorse and apologies seem fake and ring hollow to me. Now she has turned her attacks onto Alex. There is nothing redeeming about this woman.

I’m happy that her husband is well. I’m glad she doesn’t know what it is like to see the person you love being eaten alive by the disease. I’m glad she hasn’t had to experience chemo treatments that make you so ill that you vomit so hard that you bring up blood and break the blood vessels surrounding your eyes. I’m glad Jill hasn’t had to be afraid to touch her loved one. Because that one touch causes such excruciating pain that they breakout in a cold sweat and scream from the pain of it. I’m glad Jill hasn’t had to sit by her loved ones side while they are so heavily sedated because that is the only way to help them cope with the pain. I’m glad Jill has never seen the weight and hair lose that accompanies the disease and chemo treatments. I’m glad that Jill hasn’t had to see her loved one hooked to tubes and needles all over their body. Needles to carry nourishment because they can’t tolerate food much less feed themselves. Needles that carry the medicines and pain relievers to their body. Tubes to help them breath and urinate. I’m glad that Jill has never experienced the guilt that comes from praying for your loved ones death. A death that you don’t want because you don’t know how you will cope without them. But a death that will finally end the pain and suffering that your loved one will finally have. I’m glad that Jill has never seen or experienced the one they love transform from a vibrant person to a hollow shell of themselves.

Jill has many thing she should be glad and thankful for. Her attacks at Bethenny and Alex are petty and vindictive. She says she has changed and she is sorry. Her attacks at Alex shows she hasn’t changed. Her apologies ring false. She uses cancer as a tool and a weapon. What more will this petty, vile woman stoop to win the sick game she’s playing?

I do hate Jill Zarin. I was once a fan but she destroyed that. She has a lot to atone for. She can and does throw as much money as she wants towards charity. It is nothing more than free advertising and PR for her. Maybe if she donated her time and actually worked at a hospice or hospital cancer ward she would get it. But knowing her she would show up with cameras and only do it for the PR. Yes I hate Jill. And I LOVE Lynn’s site.”

I don’t know how anyone can argue against this point of view, I really don’t.  To think that this is just one of the horrible vicious things that Jill Zarin has done and how it can affect so many lives that have been devastated by this horrible disease. 

Jill is also jumping on Kelly’s “Bullying” bandwagon.  This is another serious issue that has impacted children and young adults throughout the country.  It infuriates me that these women talk about it like it is something that they’ve experienced on this TV show.  There is no way anyone is going to convince me that Kelly was bullied on St. John by Alex, Bethenny, Sonja and Ramona.  I truly believe that if Sonja saw one ounce of bullying, she would have been sitting on the other couch at that reunion, I really do.  

I don’t doubt for one moment that Jill was traumatized when the women didn’t welcome her with open arms when she surprised them on St. John.  Clearly, she didn’t think it through when she planned her surprise.  The phone call the night before that Ramona and Bethenny made to Jill should have given her pause to reconsider her plan.  That wasn’t a case of being bullied either, it was a case of poor decision making and the results were in direct proportion to that decision. 

In any case, I don’t think that people who question the name of the blog really get it.  I know many of them don’t read the blog, if they did, they would see that not every blog is about Jill Zarin, in some cases her name isn’t even mentioned.  I blog about the RHONY, we’ve discussed all of the women on the show, I blog about Top Chef and Bethenny’s Getting Married? And will continue to expand to other shows if people are interested. 

The NY Post (correction NYMag) web site has a blog about The Real Housewives of New York, the blog had a section every week called, “Reasons Why Jill Zarin is a Despicable Person” or something like that…are people harassing that writer?   I’ve read dozens of blogs, articles and comments from people who hate Jill Zarin, don’t like Jill Zarin or find her to be a horrible person, have all of those people met Jill Zarin? 

At the beginning of the reunion, Jill told Bethenny that she has changed, she even added that “you’ll see it today”.  Jill clearly had a plan to show everyone that she had changed.  The problem is she couldn’t pull it off.  Her plan was to take ownership of all of her mistakes and apologize for them.  It was working for a while too, she was behaving well and saying all the right things.  The one thing that Jill couldn’t do at the reunion however was to be civil to Alex.  Her tone of voice, the horrible faces that she made and the vicious words that flew toward Alex showed me, Bethenny and the two million viewers that Jill Zarin has not changed, simply changed her target. 

And so, the name of the blog will not change, many of you found this site because of its name, but the people who read and post here are not “haters”.   This is the nicest, warmest, most welcoming group of people that I have ever had the privilege to have been a part of.   The regular people who post comments here are so supportive of one another and have some amazing stories to tell.  From an 18-year old, wise beyond her years, young lady to some “mature” ladies that have a lifetime of experiences to share with everyone to even a few guys who have made us laugh and brought us things to think about.   

Until Next Time……


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166 Responses to I Hate Jill Zarin Yes I Do! June 20, 2010

  1. moriasheehan says:

    speaking of singing (well luann anyway) i was watching Party Monster with McCauley Culkin last night and at one time he and his friends start doing a chant to music that says
    Money Success Fame Glamour Money Success Fame Glamour Money Success Fame Glamour, sounds almost like luanns spoken song and……today watched Blazing Saddles, remember when Madeline Kahn does her Marlene Dietrich parody, she sings in a real low voice, off key, ha ha ha ha ha up and down the scale, it sounded like luann when she tried to hit those notes. check them out, great films, too.

    money success fame glamour http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I8gAvkybkU8
    here is i’m so tired http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cQU0_PHUB2E

  2. DJ Loops Fruit says:

    And another reason to hate her is she knew exactly what sort of Family baggage Bethenny had and kew that Bethenny looked up to her as a mother figure and what does this mother figure do but abandon the “child” just doing that alone she knew would upset Bethenny but did she care no she held a grudge she never says exactly what the grudge is for but im pretty sure you already know and have said she is jealous of Bethennys new show now how stupid is she had she not done any of the things she did this season she would have been doing B’s show as well as housewives and know she maybe doing none
    and if you think she pulled out all the guns for her friend wait to you see what she does to Alex
    luckily Alex can hold her own and stand up to the best or in this case the worst of them
    sorry to hear all that stuff going on with you and your family and i will keep good thoughts for all of you
    my father died of a brain tumor
    my aunt had stomach cancer
    its all around us shame on Jillaousy for making it into a s/l

    • MNSUE says:

      Wow, I hadn’t thought about your point. All of Jill’s actions knowing Bethenny’s family history. Obviously I agree with it being despicable how she exploited cancer.

      Here’s another “biggie”
      the way she dismissed the seriousness of Bethenny’s father being ill because “they weren’t that close”. Pretty sure it was when Alex was gently and diplomatically trying to encourage Jill to reach out.

      I posted about this once before. When my father died a co-worker (named Jill!) said to me ” ya, but you didn’t live with him did you?” I guess I had told her I grew up with divorced parents and did the weekend visit thing.

      Memo to Jill Zarin: you don’t get to judge whether or not someone is allowed to mourn the loss of a parent based on what you think their relationship meant. You are a bitch and a wannabe.

      • MNSUE says:

        And when is she ever going to show she is human and actually listen to someone when they are trying to tell her something?

        She sat there and said Alex didn’t say B’s father was sick. WTF???
        Let’s assume for a second that Alex did not literally say “B’s father is sick”
        Hey Jill what do you think the whole point of that sit down was? Alex said if you think there’s any chance you want to reach out now is the time. Wake up Jill and pull your arrogant head out of your ass.

        (Thank you, sorry for the harsh language. I feel better now!)

        • WindyCityWondering says:

          I got it from what Alex said that B’s dad was likely not to recover and it would be a good time to reach out to her – Jill dismissed it because she wasn’t ready to make up yet! Guess dying doesn’t count in Jill’s book of rules but a funeral does!

      • Kristy says:

        It’s disgusting

        My family is also going through cancer, my uncle/godfather has been battling pancreatic cancer for almost 2yrs now, it is torture all around for everyone i can’t even begin to describe the blog did a very good job so i’ll leave it there.

        The problem with Jill is when she feels slighted or insulted she doesn’t retaliate in a way that is proportionate to what transpired there is NO EXCUSE to purposely mislead people privately and on national tv that your “friend” knew your husband had cancer and wasn’t there for you.
        it is the most calculating thing i have ever heard of. Nothing Bethenny could have done would have ever warranted that behavior it’s like a Napoleon complex, someone made her feel small so she ripped their limbs off and then fed them to sharks(i don’t think thats napoleon but you get the idea)

        It’s unreal to me, who does something like that? “bobby had cancer all she did was send flowers.” you never told her bobby had cancer. i mean basically what she wanted was for all of america to burn her at the stake and when it backfired and SHE started feeling the fire it’s “i’m sorry, i’m sorry” over and over again and what does she have to say about her behavior is “i don’t know why it did it, it was wrong i’m sorry” while her tone of voice is basically saying “it is what it is, it happened, what do you want from me?”


        also what was with “you’re lying prove it PROVE it,” and then like 12 secs later, “it was wrong, i was wrong, i admit it i’m sorry”

        she only apologizes when she has been backed into the corner and can’t deny it anymore thats not really the meaning of owning up to your behavior.

        and what kills me what absolutely kills me is… what 3 days later she is hating on bethenny in her blogs again and on her sister’s radio show.

        wow i feel a heck of a lot better having gotten that off my chest i may hate jill zarin but i love ihatejillzarin

        thank you Lynn for the intelligent discussions and a place to vent it makes me feel so much less crazy that people are seeing things the same way i am.

        …sorry for the long post

  3. Snarkapalooza says:

    Lynn, I believe it’s NYMag that had the “Reasons Why Jill is Despicable” blog. The NYPost has been the outlet for several of Jill’s famous “inside source” plants.

  4. Bethany says:

    Lynn, I’ve always been a lurker until now (although I’ve followed you on twitter a while and have @’d you a few times). I just wanted to say I support you and love your blog (anytime you vent, it brings me relief that someone also understands!), and I appreciate this post. I do think that hate is a strong word, but I think Jill has merited it. I honestly don’t think I can sit though another season with Jill and Kelly, as much as I love RHONY… but only time will tell. I’m going to give RHODC a chance, I hope you blog on them too! I might start as well, since I live near DC. If I do, I’ll tell you so you can read if you want.

  5. DJ Loops Fruit says:

    the song from party monster was an actual song that was done by the pop tarts who actually produced that film and directed it
    they are also the guys behind a lot of reality shows including rupauls drag race

    • moriasheehan says:

      thanks dj loops fruit, i had never heard it before the movie. it really did remind me of luann’s song and wasn’t there one by the pet shop boys, also spoken.

  6. Thank you Lynn! You have articulated everything I feel and have wanted to say. You are eloquent in your words and I LOVE this site! I love and appreciate all the love, support, understanding, well wishes and advice I have received here. For all those who want to criticize the name of Lynn’s blog- I have NEVER experienced a more LOVING and friendly site to post on! Are we perfect? No. Do we have occasional pot stirrers. Yes. But, for the most part…..ALL are welcomed here.

  7. boston02127 says:

    @Lynn~~^5 to you. Excellent Blog.

  8. Melinda says:

    ah but remember………Jill CLEARLY stated that she can’t change on the last episode………so now she has “changed”………I cry bullshit!! she hasn’t changed a bit……this is who she is at her core and unfortunately Bethenny should have seen it when Jill would go after others and talk smack about them. But hindsight is 20/20 and I give Bethenny HUGE props for not letting that snake back in her life!! I know Bethenny considered her a close friend but when you look back and see how Jill was to others that is a RED FLAG how she will be to you…….

    oh and why did NONE of the housewives come to Alex’s defense when Jill was clearly venomous towards her in the reunion. If I had been there I would have confronted Jill and said, how do you justify being so cruel to Alex??? even if you weren’t “friends” like you keep saying………I cry bullshit on that………no Alex, Jill was not and never will be your “friend” but it was convenient for her to try to use you when she thought it would help her.

    KEEP THE SAME NAME OF THE BLOG!! it says it all!! 😉

  9. Char212 says:

    Bravo Lynn for staying true to yourself! I agree with everything you said. Your blog is so much more then what the title suggests and that’s why I love coming here.

    You know Jill could have saved herself a lot of grief if she had told Ramona and B that she was coming down when they called to tell her about Kelly. She knew from their call that it turned out to be a horrendous trip so why would she think that she could just show up out of the blue like that and that they would welcome her with open arms?

  10. boston02127 says:

    I noticed Jill on the three reunion shows she was acting sorry, crying, apologizing to each person she has hurt. She made excuse after excuse to most of her cast mates.
    She had a bad day, she shouldn’t of said that. She wasn’t thinking, etc….

    The only thing she said with any gusto was: Just because you say it, it doesn’t mean it’s true. Does she mean that about all her apologies?

  11. iamrogue says:

    I kinda hate the broad myself and I don’t know her.

  12. boston02127 says:

    I offically hate Kelly.

    Kelly’s tweet: @fisherat305 my ability to be a voice for safe sex and systematic bullying is bigger than any scene filmed. Have fun with tv.

  13. anutha hata says:

    I’m glad you made your decision.
    You didn’t do anything wrong by using the “H”-word Lynn.
    It is exactly what Bravo expected.
    I don’t know if Jill herself started-out by encouraging the “hate”, it sure looked like it.
    Personally, I think that she thought that she could control it, and control the viewers, and play with the “hate” that was purposely created, so that Jill could be the one that everybody loves to hate.
    Well, whatever she thought she was doing, it backfired on her.
    They asked us to “watch what happens”, and we did.
    Now Jill wants to be liked. By us, and Bravo, and Bethenny…..OH, but she still wants Alex to be hated! Ha ha.
    I love to hate Jill so much that I never want to see her on tv again!
    I want to stop hating her, but I can’t if they keep bringing her on.

    • boston02127 says:

      @anutha hata~ I love hating Jill too. Although, I don’t care if she stays on the show. Jill’s fun to hate. She digs her own hole. It’s Kelly I want gone. I have no patience for her at all.

  14. JillousyHater says:

    NY Mag had their weekly “Reasons Why Jill Zarin is a Disgusting Person….”

    Really Great Blog – – you didn’t even mention Amazongate – – that also made me hate Jill. Not only threatening a reviewer on Amazon, but using a pseudonym to shit all over Bethenny and Alex’s book and giver her RHONY Season 1 DVD a great review saying Jill was her favorite character on the show! What a stupid bitch.

  15. Bobbi says:

    Well, when you put it like that……lol. Those are all extremely valid reasons to maintain the name of the blog. When I suggested something more generic, I just thought it would attract more eyes. But, I totally understand the reasons for the choice of this title and the reasons for continuing it. More power to you and your blog, Lynn! I’ll keep reading!

  16. iamrogue says:

    She is still trying to control 2 million people. Her .com page is full of excessively long love letters to her. What’s wif that?

  17. iceNfire says:

    You haters moved too fast for me.

    anutha hata – i.e. posting on Jill’s website if we have a Troll outburst:
    Love the way you make sense out of my rant, but I wasn’t serious. My kids are out back doing the BBQ thing for our daddy and I hate BBQ’s. See everyone it’s not only Jill Zarin that I hate, I also hate a whole genre of cooking/chefing.

    shadowsnomore – shadow – Please stay away from that hell-hole. I have wanted to comment in your defense there but feared getting sucked into their nightmare.

    Back to top I go.

    • boston02127 says:

      @iceNfire: How could you hate BBQ’s? lol 🙂

      • iceNfire says:

        Direct sunlight in 100 degrees
        Fighting over who is the BBQer
        Food dropped & replaced ( the heat kills germs )
        Friends who happen to stop by
        Extra trips to store

        Ya, I’ll stay right here.

    • Need a Hobby says:

      As I posted (rather lengthily) on Lynn’s previous blog entry, I suspect that other blog site is a PR plant/ploy. One of her PR peeps apparently was previously busted trolling another blog site. So it’s not entirely out of the realm of possibility that the hub blog was created as part of a internet PR campaign to “support” J and attack her critics and other housewives.

      • Need a Hobby says:

        One of JZ’s PR peeps, I meant to say, apparently was busted for sockpuppeting on another blog.

  18. Zipit Zarin! says:

    It’s ironic that *hate* is what brought people here but love, support, friendship, well wishes etc. is what is found. The thing in common is the hate for Jill’s ACTIONS.
    People wouldn’t HATE her for those actions if they weren’t decent people at the core in the first place.

    I question anyone who doesn’t HATE Jill (her actions), so for a person to ask the question “Why do you hate Jill?” I say WHY DON’T YOU?? What..are you evil as well and admire her??? Sheesh.

    Thank you thank you Lynn, for having this place for people to actually put into words how they HATE despicable behavior and why. It’s because we are good people who hate bad people. It’s not a hard concept…except to people trying to be holier than thou. Actually they do get it but like Jill they are jealous of good people cuz they know they only wish they could rise above their lower instincts. Maybe they will some day but it won’t be because they intimidated people into being silent about evil actions in the world. Rage against evil is good!

    Thanx for the the forum to rant! (And I keep you all in my prayers)

  19. Need a Hobby says:

    Aaargh. I meant to give Lynn a 5 star rating for this blog entry and screwed up. Please folks vote it up to make up for my error. Sorry, Lynn.

  20. iamrogue says:

    Saw your name over at absurd to sublime. The nephew threatening you both. I think that writer hates the whole zarin clan.

  21. iceNfire says:

    RileyKitty has started an informal “Health Club” blog, thought I’d drop the link:


    Tips on weight loss, quitting smoking, dieting, and more. Hope this helps someone.

  22. Maryla says:

    Love the blog — check it every single day. Oh dear, maybe I’m a little too involved in this…

    But one thing I wanted to add about the reunion which feeds into Lynne’s posting about Jill not being able to keep to her pledge that the others would see by the end that she had “changed.”

    Aside from her vile attacks on Alex, the other time I’d like to note was when they were talking about Jill’s “surprise” visit to St. John.

    Jill has concocted a story in her own mind about “wanting to surprise you — thought you’d be happy to see me.” She was really transfixed on holding on to that regardless. But other information was pointed out. Luanne piped up @ reunion that she’d told Jill not to go at lunch (a RHONY scene). Jill ignores this information and holds fast to her story (then and now).

    Next, they remind her (Ramona and Bethenny both) that they had called Jill in NYC just the night before her arrival to tell her that things had gone seriously awry and that they were frightened over Kelly’s mental state.

    Both at the time that it originally occurred AND while rehashing it at the reunion, Jill CHOSE to ignore all of the incoming data/information. Anything that contradicted what she wanted to portray (victim who got kicked out of the party by friends), she rejected.

    She clung to her victim story even with everyone telling her otherwise — then and now. I can’t figure if she is just the ultimate narcissist or as batty as Kelly.

    Either way, this is not the behavior of someone who can exist in society in any sort of normal capacity.

    Sorry for the long post.

    • boston02127 says:

      @Marlya~Another thing that get me about that trip is nobody actually told her to leave. She didn’t get the warmest of welcomes but nobody jumped up and yelled leave. I know it went without saying but Jill could have told the story much diffrently.

      Jill: When I arrived I could see everyone was uncomfortable so I decided not to stay. (something like that)

      • Maryla says:

        Excellent point! She escorted her own pitiful teary-eyed self off to Bawby’s private, awaiting private plane. How he didn’t stand there and say, “hey dipsh-t, how’d ya think this would turn out?” is beyond me.

        • boston02127 says:

          @Maryla~ I’m glad her ass looked fat in those white pants when she got back in the plane to leave.

          • ReaderInWA says:

            agreed, Maryla and boston02127! No one (at least on film) asked her to leave. They just squirmed and looked uncomfortable and bewildered that Jill was there…at their party. I think Jill said, “well I should just leave” (or something to that effect). That got twisted to her being asked to leave because no one tried to stop her from leaving. Ah yes…the world according to Jill Zarin.

      • error 404 says:

        too bad nobody is buying any of it.

        she started out the season by trying to make B look bad.. cancer, get a hobby, ambush, etc… Even her shunning B’s attempts to make-up were calculated to make the viewer suspect B must have done something really bad not to be forgiven.

        it backfired and when B got engaged and pregnant she looked like a fool and B wouldn’t talk to her, so she had to go with plan b. Stage a big public show of begging forgiveness and when they don’t forgive you, they look like shit. Hence the “you threw me out!”. Just look at how many people criticized B for not getting up when Jill gave that creepy stalker hug.

        She says she had no friends in high school, yet I think there were more than one teen girl crying into their pillow in 5 towns back in the 70s. “I can’t believe Jill Kamen told the entire Pep Squad that I was slutty!? Just because I went to Paula party and didn’t bring her along. She wasn’t invited! Now no one will sit with me at lunch.”

      • Quincy IL says:

        Jill orchestrated the visit and the send off to get sympathy. I don’t think she was that upset. Crying for days? Yeah, sure.

        • moriasheehan says:

          i think she was so fuming that she had missed kelly’s melt down, Bethenny getting hated and babbled at by kelly, plus after Ramona and Bethenny told her about kelly needing help and being sent home, all of this is prime tv exposure, she wanted to be part of it so she would have more bs to throw around and make herself more self important. she just couldn’t stand being left out again. that is why she is trying to get B to forgive so she can have some of B’s reflected ‘glory’

    • iceNfire says:

      “wanting to surprise you — thought you’d be happy to see me.”
      Jill will never let that one go, you’re right it’s embedded in her mind.

      • Katiecoo says:

        Not to mention she told Luann BEFORE she went that “Bobby will have a plane waiting at the airport”. Meaning she KNEW it was a risky venture that might not turn out in her favor. While else have a plane waiting? Um, maybe to be a good friend and escort Kelly home yourself? Nah, that’s not Jill.

        • boston02127 says:

          @Katiecoo~~She also talked to Ramona and Bethenny the night before. On the reunion they said they called Jill about Kelly the night before Jill showed up.

          • dumberries says:

            And she told LuAnne before she left for the Islands that she might need her for a rescue mission (which LuAnne refused). You don’t ponder the need for a “rescue mission” if you honestly believe, “never in a million years could I have anticipated what I walked into – it was the most painful thing in my life”. She knew she was pushing the boundaries even before she knew that the ladies had endured the Kelly meltdown. But, my favorite part of her whole victim storyline (at the Reunion) was when everyone was calling her out on all these points and she turned the tables again and told Ramona that she wasn’t offered the bathroom or a glass of water. Very contrived innocent victim scenario – no one with common sense is buying it! I was peeved with Andy for giving it any weight when he said “you walked into a firing squad”.

            • error 404 says:

              She did walk into a firing squad. The only reason she went there was to take a bullet and be made a victim. She knew no one wanted to see her. She did it just to make them look like shit and get her victim badge back. “They threw a cancer survivor out of the house without a glass of water! Who does that!”

              • ReaderInWA says:

                Poor, poor Jill and Bobby who just can’t afford to hire a private plane that comes with water and a toilet. Feel so bad for them.

          • Scorpiosue says:

            I love how Jill says she told Kelly to stay on the island and Kelly said that she “might” stay. Ummmm how was she going to stay if the producer was escorting her off the island? Smells like a pile of stinking horse crap.

            • error 404 says:

              she needed Kelly to stay so that she could play savior and rescue her from the evil bullies, whom she knew were going to throw her out. Plus she needed them to really give her a mean welcome, so Kelly attacking them all night and into the morning would provide a more viscous welcome when she arrived acting all clueless. Who exactly does she think she’s fooling? It’s like Nixon showing up to the Democratic nat convention after Watergate and being all “I thought you’d be happy to see me”

      • Quincy IL says:

        I wanted to comment on the bathroom post, but there was no reply button.

        Nine hours with no bathroom…wow… Jill must have a huge bladder.

  23. iamrogue says:

    I am of a mind she may be more insane than kelly. She is definitely more DANGEROUS.

  24. iceNfire says:

    LOL – From those who dont like lynn – Good Call Needs a Hobby!
    Julie J 50 minutes ago
    Jill is my favorite housewife always has always will be. These people obviously have nothing in their lives to consume them other than disliking Jill.
    I will buy Jill’s bedding line the minute it is out. I highly recommend her book to you Gwen, if you haven’t read it. Secret’s Of A Jewish Mother. It’s by Jill, her mom Gloria and her sister Lisa. Great reading….

    • Need a Hobby says:


      Jill, Jill, Jill: It’s “Secrets.” Not “Secret’s.” What a “tell.” Again.

    • boston02127 says:

      @iceNfire~~If Jill had a dollar for all her a.k.a.’s she’s be a rich woman and wouldn’t have to pawn lousy books and sheets for a living.

    • Need a Hobby says:

      Meantime, a “palmer” has also posted at JZ’s web site, encouraging others to “support” that hub blog. More cross-pollination between these sites. “palmer,” however, forgot to mention his/her anticipation of J’s new bedding line.

  25. twoile says:

    I agree Jill could do much more damage (than Kelti) to anyone she decides isn’t a friend. Targets (B) Alex et al can avoid the obvious Kelti & her delusional rantings. Jill has an army ready to attack/blog/other media etc to keep the “Oh poor me ” going.

  26. boston02127 says:

    Trouble in New Jersyville
    Ashley’s (trashly) Tweets:
    just found out that @daniellestaub came by my work yesterday “looking for me”.. WTF.. what a crazy STALKER !! GO AWAY!! & get a life.
    @daniellestaub is trying to say she didn’t come in to my work.. OKAY.. ps her total came to $500… guess she isn’t stuggling anymore?
    @dinamanzo now @daniellestuab is stalking me too… she came into Stage Left on Friday… like.. seriously? what is her problem? …
    ps @daniellestaub…how are you liking your new condo at ‘The Watermark on Hudson’ ?..where does a struggling single mom get all that money?
    @dinamanzo YEAH! .. she spent like $500 and was asking all kinds of questions… THANK GOD i wasn’t in then… i would have called the cops
    @chris_manzo because i’ve had enough of her.. she’s stalking me now?.. it’s not just name calling anymore..i want a restraining order..

    • Capiche says:

      I really try not to follow these Jersey people but is that the Ashley girl from there? So Danielle can’t go into a store and drop $500? She wants a restraining order against that? Bet the store fires her first! And why is she so interested in where Danielle lives or where she got the money from? Maybe she did get a job! Oh wait! Now they have to APPROVE what jobs she takes on to pay her bills? This is why as much as Danielle is nuts, I can’t stand the Manzos and broke-ass Teresa!

    • Capiche says:

      And you know what?? The store SHOULD fire her for revealing how much a customer paid! That is totally unethical! And NONE OF HER BUSINESS!

  27. ReaderInWA says:

    I’m going from memory here. Were any commenters stunned during the ‘Bobby’s cancer free!’ episode with Jill’s apparent lack of relief, let alone lack of her now famous ginormous tears? (Oh, I forgot that when cameras get in her face she needs her notes. The notes that cue her to cry upon hearing the phone call announcing very good news.)

  28. Free Ginger (formerly known as wolverinedg) says:

    Keep up the good work, Lynn! What I find funny, though, is that another blog that commented on yours whined that we were too tame & boring. LOL I guess we weren’t dropping enough f-bombs or something. Never mind that posters here would rather write out (& read) well-thought out posts, complete with links (if necessary). (I think it was one of the guest of a guest blog links…wish I’d saved it now)

    As for Jill Zarin, it’s obvious she hasn’t changed. She never wanted to, anyway. She just thought that if she mouthed the words & went through the blocking, we viewers would be dumb enough to fall for it. If she really had changed, there would have been no need for 4 PR people, numerous sock puppets, & a retaliatory blog.

  29. Bravo fan says:

    Bethanny wrote on FB at about 12 noon EST – Happy Fathers Day. About three hours later jill decides to do the same. Copy Cat. The one thing you can’t deny is the difference in the number of comments. B. had almost 400 and Jill had 82. That number tells you the bottom line.

  30. boston02127 says:

    I wish Bethenny would set Jill up. Like lure Jill in a bit and drop a few “fake” hints about something. Say like: My mother and I are talking and she’s going to babysit the baby while I work. Or I’m starting a new line of shoes. Anything to get Jill to talk. And talk she would! I wish B would do something like that and video tape it with witnesses.

    • boston02127 says:

      My second wish is that Bethenny would ask a find a friend of hers to ask Kelly out. They could date for a week or so and he could get all the dirt on her.

    • ReaderInWA says:

      I don’t believe Bethenny would stoop so low nor even be interested in doing such a thing in her mad crazy hectic life. She is not the one who needs a hobby!

  31. Excellent blog Lynn. I doubt Jill will ever change, probably not even if her world came crashing down around her. She’ll end up an embittered old woman. She flagrantly uses every card in the book irregardless of those who have actually experienced those “cards”–cancer, stalking, harassment, etc. In fact jill herself is guilty of harassment and a form of stalking, in my opinion, as indicated by her behavior trying to destroy Bethenny, then Alex’s reputations and/or careers.

    Her own sister said something to the effect that she (Lisa) underestimated Jill’s intense desire to become famous. To me, that speaks volumes and it doesn’t speak well of Jill.

    On another note, I think it was June last year when Bravo decided who was returning for season 4 (saw an article online about it), so if Bravo does their market research this week, maybe we’ll know by month’s end or in early July.

    Whether they fire jill and kelly or keep them, I’ve gotten to the point that I don’t care anymore. I love Bethenny’s show and will support it. Bravo’s direction for these housewife shows has gone to the trashy, sensationalistic side with OC, Atlanta, NJ and now NY so I decided I just won’t be watching NY if they continue in this vein. Bravo’s shows used to be fun and interesting, but whoever lowered the standards of these shows by allowing these trashy, sensationalistic elements into the shows should be fired.

  32. cusi77 says:

    What a beautiful blog Lynn!
    This is the reason for which we congregate here, because you tell it allways like it is!
    Many reasons we have to love Lynn and hate Jill Zarin.

  33. ReaderInWA says:

    Lynn–knocked this one outta the park!

    • Quincy IL says:

      It’s amazing how many comments Lynn gets. Since the numbers are at the top of the page, it would be cool to add them up. It could easily be in the thousands.

  34. error 404 says:

    Question about the ambush: Did Jill and Lulu REALLY think that Bravo sent a camera crew to watch them pick up old clothes from Ramona? Seriously? It’s like la, la, here I am doing some mundane task even I’m bored by, but of course there’s a full crew filming it for tv, naturally, but oh no! what’s this? another cast member from the same show? here? while camera’s are filming for tv? How shocking! I never would have dreamt such a possibility in all my life! Where’s Bawby! I need Bawby!.

    • Capiche says:

      Someone mentioned on another post Jill’s constant looking for Bobby is all the episodes where they appear. I noticed it as well. Are the Bravo editors/producers trying to tell us something. It dates back to season 1! Every function she’s always like “where’s bobby?” or “has anyone seen bobby?” LOL!

      • ReaderInWA says:

        Apparently both Ginger and Bobby need leashes.

      • moriasheehan says:

        i think she counts on bawby being her buffer, proof she’s a nice person cause after all, bawby married her and he’s nice.

    • cusi77 says:

      Ha! so funny err! you crack me up! It is so true!

    • error 404 says:

      does anyone remember how long it was between when B called Lulu a Snake, the famous “We ARE done!” evesdropped phone call, and then B showed up at Ramona’s “Like seeing a ghost!”? A week? Two weeks? Isn’t “like seeing a ghost” when you haven’t seen of had a phone call from someone is like 20 years and had no idea what they were up to all that time? Way to exaggerate Countess!

  35. Quincy IL says:

    Yippee. I love the “I hate Jill Zarin” name.

    This is a friendly place. It doesn’t bother me if someone disagrees with me so I have no problem with everyone here.

    I didn’t look at Jill Zarin’s twitter today so I don’t know what she ate. Bummer.

    • ReaderInWA says:

      I know! Missing out on some real important gossip, yes? Perhaps she’ll tweet about the color of Ginger’s poo then…

    • error 404 says:

      Kiki went kayaking. The picture she tweeted looked like a 7 year old’s reaction to Kayaking.

  36. Capiche says:

    Great blog Lynn! And right on point. I was one of those who suggested that maybe you do change the blog’s name, but after seeing Reunion part 3 and Jill’s continued tactics, I’ve changed my mind! Keep it as a daily reminder that there’s a great deal of people out there that hate Jill. Good point as well with the New York Magazine’s reasons why Jill is a disgusting person list. I read all their recaps and it never really registerd with me until you wrote about it. Perhaps it’s because by then I already knew Jill was a disgusting person. I dare Jill and her cronies to pick a fight with them!

    But one thing you forgot to include Amazongate. I mean, that was just the icing on the cake! This bitch actually threatened one of their top reviewers. Is she sane? Sure, I would tsk-tsk if it was revealed that she wrote a positive review to her book, but that’s her right. I might even shake my head in disgust that she wrote negative reviews on her castmate’s book. Hey, it’s a free country! But to take issue with someone else’s negative review and call her anti-semitic??? That’s when my jaw dropped open. The nerves of that woman!

    And the more I think about it, sure…her actions on the show confirm my hate and reaffirm that she really is just that vile but I don’t hate her for them. It’s a show. At some level, one might say that’s why she’s on it. It’s the things that has been revealed she does outside the show that really irks me! The whole backstabbing, sabotaging, dirty dealing tricks she uses to get her way, get her name in the press, slam her castmates, and ruin people that “slight” her in any way is what I am blown away by! Who does she think she is? If we stop and think about it, this Jill actually tried to ruin her former BFF’s new show! The audacity! And probably knowing very well that it is the same producers that produce RHONYC that were behind B getting her new show! Did she think they’ll just bend over and let her kick them in the ass?

    Which brings me to a solution for the Real Housewives series: Every season should feature a different set of women in each city. I know we all have our favorites, but let’s think about it. All their events, activities, goals, wishes will be entirely contained within that season and there’ll be no need for all those shenanigans behind the scenes. The storylines will stay fresh and it will reduce all the products, books, alcohol that these wives are trying to sell! That may have been the fatal mistake of Real Housewives. These women eventually begin to believe they are bigger than the show!

    • dumberries says:

      Capiche, I feel the same. I also don’t hate Zarin for what happened on the show. I hate Zarin for 3 reasons:

      1. All those underhanded malicious things she did off the set to severely sabotage others who didn’t deserve it, and attempting to mislead the public with her fake reviews (and threats)
      2. Insulting the viewers’ intelligence by thinking we couldn’t figure out the very obvious malicious motives behind what she was presenting on the show. She’s totally transparent, but thinks she’s crafty.
      3. Actually believing that she was the queen of the world and that if we believed she was hurt by her friend that the entire viewing public would shun the person who hurt her feelings. Personally, even if Bethenny did know Bobby had cancer (which she didn’t), I wouldn’t have thought less of her for not abandoning her book tour to rush to Bobby’s hospital room. That is what his wife is for! Flowers and checking in is appropriate from a concerned friend who is not geographically nearby, IMO. And, if Zarin needs to have someone physically at her side at all times when there is a family trauma, she’s less mature than Kelly.

      • Quincy IL says:

        In the early shows, the women hardly knew each other. Jill says that she had observed Ramona and hoped to get to know her better. So what’s up with all of that 15 year old friendship crap on the island when Jill was creating drama and deciding to leave?

  37. LynnNChicago says:

    Big Drama in the Jersey world. Boston posted a bunch of their tweets above. Everyone is claiming that Danielle is stalking them, that woman must have secret superhuman abilities to be in several different places at once.

    Then, doh! Caroline posts her home phone number on Twitter by mistake..she deleted it but the damage is done. (No, I didn’t save it) LOL

    She then respectfully requested that people stop calling her because she is expecting an important call.
    Now her most recent tweet….

    CarolineManzo Deleting fb & Twitter accounts tonight Thanks 4 respecting my wishes

    • LynnNChicago says:

      Sorry to say that she’s screwed! Once that phone number has been Re-tweeted, it will never go away. She is going to have to change her number, deleting Facebook and Twitter isn’t going t change that.

      Honestly, I do feel bad for her but NJ Housewife fans are ..shall we say, “special”. (not all, but some)

      • How can someone tweet by mistake their phone number? I mean, you enter the number, then click on “tweet”. I guess she thought she was sending a DM? Oh, well, all she has to do is call the phone company. Done! LOL!

      • Quincy IL says:

        How stupid is it to put your phone number on your twitter account?

    • boston02127 says:

      @LynnNChicago~~She must not have call waiting. 🙂

      • dumberries says:

        Danielle somehow posed as Caroline and published her number – the ever-present stalker. Kidding – sorry, I just can’t even get through 10 minutes of that show without turning channels.

    • Upper WestSide Dude says:

      That made me laugh about the phone number. I would love to prank call her. 🙂

  38. Char212 says:

    Now that we know that Jill tried to talk everyone out of filming with B it’s especially poetic that all but her and LuAnn went to VI. I bet it really pissed her off that Ramona invited B which is why she asked Ramona at lunch that day with her and Sonja who wasn’t going to be invited. Also, because she wanted to ruin Bethanny it wouldn’t surprise me at all if she did tell Kelly to do what she can to make B look bad only to have that backfire too. When Ramona and B called Jill to tell her about Kelly I bet she thought Kelly succeeded in her mission and thought that she finally got B where she wanted her. I can just see her thinking that now everyone will love me and hate Bethanny.

  39. iceNfire says:

    boston02127 says:
    June 20, 2010 at 6:29 pm

    I wish Bethenny would set Jill up. Like lure Jill in a bit and drop a few “fake” hints about something.

    LOL – How did we get to this? LOL

  40. luloobelle says:

    sorry if this has been posted before….

    RT @kikilet: @cpeepers in a scene for b fashion week. It was said that I have satchels of gold, and others are so hard working.
    about 5 hours ago via Twitter for Android

    I can’t get over it. it’s driving me nuts. What the $#@% does satchels of gold mean? Please tell me! @kikilet please!

    • boston02127 says:

      @luloobelle~I don’t think she even knows. She’s such a moron. It’s probably something from some cartoon. I’m guessing that’s all she watches or can relate to. Too bad she doesn’t know that when she says it or types it that she seems as dumb as a box of hair.

      • luloobelle says:

        @boston02127: agreed. it was the first reference i had seen from kkb so i thought i’d pass it along.

        as my personality is more like bf, i find myself shrieking at the t.v. when she is incoherently mumbling. i personally find the other housewives to have a considerable amount of self restrain. after one of her ridiculous diatribes i would just tell her to please stfu.

        as for jill. she claims to be a n.y bitch? let her go head-to-head with a nice jewish girl from the north shore of chicago. i would make her eyes spin…..hehe.

    • OMG OMG
      Guys – either I lost my mind or I think I understand what satchels of gold means!
      If I am reading the above correctly, then kiki said: “in a scene for b fashion week. It was said that I have satchels of gold and others are so hard working”
      So… was “satchels of gold” a phrase someone said to her in reference to the fact that Kelly doesn’t have to work bc she has satchels/bags of gold (aka Gilles bank account) lying around? Could that be what it is? A reference to her not having to work for her money?
      It still doesn’t explain why she blurted it out at the breakfast table, but at least there may be an legitimate place where this phrase originated from.
      Or I’m just crazy or reading the whole thing wrong. What do you think?

      Btw, I made a twitter just so I could ask Kelly that question. She responds to everyone but me. :”'(

      • luloobelle says:

        that is how i too interpreted her tweet. additionally, i thought the same thing about the “i’m up here and you’re down here” comment. she always plays the holier than thou card. maybe she really does think she is superior to the other housewives.

  41. desertgal66 says:

    Aw, hell, just give Jill a good shove off the Brooklyn Bridge, Bethenny. You know you want to.

  42. Adgirl says:

    By far the very worst things Jill has done were “off screen.” Many viewers of RHNY may not keep up with her real life antics.

    It is wicked to hurt a family by trying to kill them financially. What Jill has done in her attempts to hurt Simon & Alex are unspeakably evil.

    1. The gossip column (S2?). Simon has a “drinking problem”.
    2. The gossip column about Alex & Simon” being cut from next season.
    3. Amazon-gate horrible reviews of their book.
    4. Claiming during S3 reunion Alex posed for pornographic photos at the hotel Simon manages.
    5. Trying to have Lynn’s party for Alex & Simon stopped.
    6. Trying to cut Alex’s screen time.
    7. Announcing she won’t work with Alex next season.

    I’m sure I am missing many more instances of Jill’s fatwah on Alex & Simon.

    Bethenny, I know can hit Jill right where it hurts – cutting Jill out (like a cancer!) while being cordial enough to kill Jill’s ability to gain sympathy from it.

    • iceNfire says:

      I hated it when Jill said on the reunion ” I want to see the baby”
      It sounded like a demand than a request.
      Guess we all know that didn’t happen since there’s been no google alert.

      • LynnNChicago says:

        I hope B took a long hot shower after that hug from Jill before she touched that beautiful baby.

      • Need a Hobby says:

        I hope B has good security at her building. Remember, JZ managed to get past Kathy Griffin’s security between shows.

        Picture this: Jill has herself delivered to B’s condo wrapped up in a bolt of fabric. Or, she poses as a window washer and has herself lowered from the roof. Maybe next season.

    • Zee says:

      So far behind on all the terrific blogs and posts – please forgive an overworked mom. Can someone catch me up Shills attempt to stop the party Lynn had for Alex & Simon? This is a new one for me and just another reason to HATE JILL. Thanks gang, have missed yall.

  43. dumberries says:

    Satchels of Gold

    The only definition for Satchels of Gold that I’ve found is in relation to a game called Mouse Hunt. They are some kind of bonus “loot” to be earned in that game. Kelly could well be a gamer when she’s not busy being charitable.

  44. Debbie says:

    Excellent blog!! As a cancer survivor, I hate Jill Zarin. As a woman, I hate her . As a human I hate her.

  45. $16,000 purse says:

    I’m a jew and I cringe in horror at the shame this disgrace of a jew has brought upon my people.Oye gevalt.

  46. FredTheCatTravels says:

    Lynn, people are going to say bad things about your blog, your followers, and you because you are telling the truth and the truth hurts.

    Keep up the good work!

  47. iamrogue says:

    I know, I’m going crazy with it.

  48. boston02127 says:

    Jill also said she wanted to go there to make amends with Bethenny before the holidays. (even thou B lived a blog away from Jill in NY)

  49. iamrogue says:

    I am having trouble with it also.

  50. LynnNChicago says:

    Ok hang in there everyone, I’ll see if I can figure out what is wrong. Reply is not working properly

  51. dumberries says:

    The reply button will accept replies, but isn’t posting them under the original post.

  52. HD says:

    I’m not one to bullshit…I HATE JILL ZARIN! I do! No, I have never met her but her actions alone show me that she is the type of person to hate! I will not sugarcoat it. I hate her and I will, more than likely, NEVER meet this woman in my life but yes, I do hate her! I found this site simply by typing in a Google search…I HATE JILL ZARIN! And lo and behold, this site popped up! THANK YOU!

  53. Kotagirl says:

    I, like many of us, were HUGE Jill fans during seasons one and two. We wanted her to beat Ramona in tennis, we were thinking she was a wonderful friend to Bethenny (sharing Gloria and her home), we thought she was a great Mom to Ally (raising money for juvenile arthritis and supporting her in everything). There was a lot to like about Jill. Except now I think it was all just an act. A ruse she used to make herself look better. Jill exhibits all the behaviors that define a narcissist. She keeps a tally sheet of her good deeds and then sits back and waits for everyone to fail. And she is constantly negative. I don’t remember one episode this season when she paid a compliment to anyone or anything which wasn’t quickly followed by her in the interview making a negative statement. She doesn’t listen when others speak, you can see it when you watch her on TV. The entire time someone is speaking she is formulating her answer. If she was trying half as hard to be a friend as she claims she wouldn’t be facing hundreds of thousands of people finding new reasons every day to dislike her. She is petty, vindictive, and calculating and if she plugs her stupid book one more time I think I will go insane. If her and her Mother’s advice is so great, why the hell don’t they try following it. I don’t know about the rest of you, but I don’t have a checklist that I run through to make sure my friends are “good” friends. I treat them they way I want them to treat me and it usually works out pretty well. So I say to Jill, “Take you advice and your secrets and keep them to yourself because I don’t want to hear it anymore.”

    • error 404 says:

      so true Kotagirl!

      I was surprised by the way Jill turned on B over the signage at the creeky joints event, and when she apologized and blamed Ramona, I was still uneasy, but she seemed sincere and I bought her crocodile tears at the reunion.

      this season, I saw that that one weird little moment was real, and it blossomed and grew. She learned nothing from that incident and couldn’t have been too forgiving, as it wasn’t long at all before she was at it again, slamming B for imagined slights she’d all but made up in her head, flying off the handle and overreacting, blaming her reaction on others and/or having a bad day, then crying and begging for forgiveness before starting it all over again.

  54. Kokuanani says:

    I don’t doubt for one moment that Jill was traumatized when the women didn’t welcome her with open arms when she surprised them on St. John. Clearly, she didn’t think it through when she planned her surprise.

    One of the reasons she was so surprised and “traumatized” and their reaction is that Jill is SO narcissitic, she is unable to imagine any point of view other than her own.

    She had plenty of “facts:” she knew Kelly had had a hard time; she knew that at least TWO of those on the island [Bethenny & Ramona] were worried enough to put aside whatever issues they may have had with Jill and CALL HER to alert her to Kelly’s problems and solicit her help. There were plenty of other “facts” that were available to her if she’d chosen to gather them — like the full extent of the problems Kelly was having, and the stress this was causing to everyone else.

    But, of course, I can’t imagine Jill asking about any of these issues. It’s always about HER: what SHE thinks, how SHE is received, does SHE get that glass of water.

    Just think about this, from your own cocoon of normalcy: would YOU have acted this way? Would YOU have exhibited no curiosity about how your “friends” were doing? Would YOU have limited to your concerns to how YOU would come across and the reception you would receive?

    Jill is abnormal, and she can’t think of anyone or anything other than herself.

    No, of course not. You’re normal. You’re not a narcissist.

  55. ramonacoaster says:

    Woohoo Lynn! You go girl! You’re right on target with the way you express yourself. Very concise, passionate and articulate. A lot of your sentiments echo my own but I can’t express them as well as you do. I think this season Jill was completely full of herself and too into her own world that she couldn’t see what’s going on around her. And like Bethenny said, “She can’t get out of her own way.” Karma just bitchslapped her in the ass and she still doesn’t get it. I wonder if there’s hope for her. I hope we won’t find out by seeing her on season 4.

    Jill should take the advice that she gave Kelly last season. “I don’t think it’s working for her,” Jill Zarin told E! Online, “I don’t think she should be on the show.”
    “It’s not that I think we should throw anybody off,” Zarin continued, “It’s just that I think if I were her, I would not do the show again. I would go back to anonymity and spend the next year trying to repair my reputation. What’s more important to her: her reputation or fame?”

    Reading this Jill (or at least 1 of her PR people)?

  56. Peary85 says:


    The post that you included in your blog just gave me another reason not to like Jill. We are at the beginning of the cancer treatment journey with my dad. Unfortunately we know we can only delay the inevidable but at this time his mind is intact and he wants every day that he can get. On Friday my parents will celebrate their 49th anniversary. At the moment he’s hoping to just see that day. He’s had my mom set up landmark calendar for him. We have dates for him to live for set up for the next over the next 5 years with landmarks at minimum every few months most of the time it’s every month.

    BTW for those that don’t know Thyriod Cancer is the most curable cancer that there is.

    Additionally, I just started following your blog when Alex and Simon were out in Chicago for their book signing. GREAT BLOG!

  57. kellyhannah says:

    I don’t know if this has been mentioned yet.

    When J said B was not supposed to tell anyone about B’s new show…but she told J and then J made sure everyone including Bravo knows that B can’t be trusted….it was very back-handed.
    anyone else notice that?

  58. kellyhannah says:

  59. Dwight Schrute says:

    Look, the only thing that has changed about this woman are some of her tactics (false apologies, asking for the on-air hugs, demands to roll the tape and, oh yeah, getting up to leave. . . the old Jill would have demanded that someone else leave Andy’s interview). The constant digs got to me.

    C’mon, Ramona apologized to Jill on the island, at Jill’s party, and at her renewal and 6 months later Jill is still digging at her with the “thanks for offering water comment?” How many times does Jill expect Ramona to apologize to Jill for JZ’s own bad behavior? It shows that JZ will never “forgive” Ramona and really does cast a new light on Jill’s Bravo blog complaining how others are not forgiving her when we’re shown that Jill herself doesn’t forgive.

    I also think that Jill is confusing forgiveness with things going back to the way they were originally. I do think that Ramona and Bethenny have forgiven Jill. Alex, probably not but she and Jill haven’t had the closure the others have had since the JZ assaults on her continue on her to this day. Just because the others may have forgiven Jill, it doesn’t mean that they TRUST Jill and that they want to give her the power she desires by bringing them back into private confidences.

    I’ve had a toxic person in my life and I have forgiven them. Personally I think this person has mental issues and she gets the “not guilty by reason by insanity” card from me. Yet while I have forgiven her and harbor no ill will towards to her I don’t trust her and I much prefer the stability of my life that I have achieved by keeping this person at arms length and out of personal confidences. It is much less drama so I do think BRAS can forgive Jill without wanting the drama of having her in their day to day lives.

    • Dwight Schrute says:

      Sorry, I find this blog so interesting I never seem to be able to write a short message! PS, keep the name but thanks for featuring less prominently that graphic of KKB!

  60. Comanche_Black says:

    Word on the street is that the De Lesseps were associated with the Nazis during WWII in France and not for self-preservation of their family, but as active Nazi supporters, anti-semitic, strip the Jews of everything because they are inferior type folks. I had heard this long before any of the comments about LuMan’s new boyfriend came into play. By the way the Countess was bobbing and weaving on Andy’s question about it, I suspect she wanted to avoid it for the sake of her children now and for when they are old enough to understand the implications of their ancestors actions and their father’s anti-semitic feelings. I get wanting to protect her children, especially at this age. And I am sure that Bravo did not want to get into that whole story, so why even get Andy to bring it up? Unless they want people to come to their own conclusion that the Count is an anti-semite or just try to even make him the bad guy for leaving LuMan. Just thought it was odd that it was speficially mentioned at least twice that I know of during the season, but they never came straight out with the story. I have also heard that the Count and Countess have even dressed in Nazi regalia for costume parties on the Hampton’s. They thought it was a “hoot.”

  61. ReaderInWA says:

    Ode to Kelly Bensimon, sung (privately in one’s own head with a Michael Jackson beat)…♫♪♫♪♫

    They told her don’t you ever come around here
    Don’t wanna see your face, you better disappear
    The fire’s in our eyes and our words are really clear
    So zip it, just zip it

    You better run, you better do what you can
    Don’t wanna drink Kellade, don’t wanna babysit
    You wanna be real, better do what you can
    So zip it, but you wanna be chill

    Just zip it, zip it, zip it, zip it
    No one wants to be confused
    Showin’ how funky and strong is your fight
    It doesn’t matter who’s wrong or right
    Just zip it, zip it
    Just zip it, zip it
    Just zip it, zip it
    Just zip it, zip it…♫♪♫♪♫

  62. Chattycat says:

    Lynne – You must have to put up with an awful lot of harassment and crap because of your blog. So I just wanted to take the opportunity to tell you that we love you for all of your hard work and for giving us all a place to vent our frustrations without being censored or ignored. I would be willing to bet that the majority of people that cause you trouble are in some way connected to Jill, and I would also not be surprised if your name is not in the top five people who Jill would like to “ruin.” Please don’t ever let the “haters” get you down. You have all of our support, and we will stand behind you regardless of what Jill pulls. Keep up the great work!

  63. tuzentswurth says:

    Don’t forget when Jill was complaining about Bobby having cancer and exaggerating the lack of Bethanny’s response (when B of course didn’t know anything about it), she (Jill) shortly there after said in one of her interview moments that she “had to cut B out of her life like a cancer”.
    That really did it for me. If a former friend of mine said that about me, that is the point of no return. A very tasteless, classless, clueless point of no return.
    Please DON’T change the name of this blog Lynn.

  64. Laurie in Detroit says:

    Hmmm… this sounds about right. This is Kelly to a T.


  65. Realife says:

    Been lurking forever; finally had to post. Love the blog, where else can a Jill hater go? Bravo won’t print my posts and well we know about TWOP, thanks for giving us a place to vent our frustrations, Lynn. Anyway, just wanted to bring this up. Kelly kept insisting that she was forced to go on the trip, even after Andy continued to deny her claim. Yeah , Kelly, Bravo didn’t force Jill to go or Luann, why would they force you to go? She keeps saying this because Jill forced her to go, she’s her puppet and she couldn’t tell her no. That’s why she had to keep checking in with Jill. That’s why she keeps insisting she was forced and in a way she was. We know how Kelly’s deranged mind works (sort of) she just switched her taskmaster from being Jill to Bravo (in her mind) and once she settles on something in those empty brain cells, that’s it-no turning back.

  66. George says:

    I saw that there is a “I Do Not Like Lynn Hudson” blog on here so I posted a comment to it (I’m no fan of Zarin). The comment wasn’t rude to Jill in anyway, was trying to keep my post on point. I looked at my post today and they have changed it to say Jill is great and Alex and Simon were rude to her!!!! That was NOT what I said at all, just goes to show that none of Jills fans can either tell or stand the truth about their “Queen”. Jill and her minions go on about hatred and how Silex, Bethenny, etc are all liars….well take a good look at what they have been posting and its quite clearly skewed to suit their agenda of making Jill Zarin into a Saint…. http://idonotlikelynnhudson.wordpress.com/2010/06/25/i-hate-alex-mccord-4/#comment-141

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