I Hate Jill Zarin Final Recap – Jill Zarin July 6, 2010
Well we know that people who don’t read my blog on a regular basis just assume that every blog is about Jill Zarin and how much we all hate her. Those of you who actually read the blog know that it is far from that. Occasionally, however, we do need to cover Jill’s antics because they are both frequent and fascinating.
Let’s go back for just a moment to the beginning of the season. I can remember watching, for the first time, Luann and Jill walking down the pier to Ramona’s yacht party and having seen the previews of Jill saying how horrible Bethenny had been not being there for ill Bobby and Bethenny’s message to Jill with the infamous “Get a hobby”. I was fully prepared to be on Team Jill prior to episode one.
Bravo editors and PR people are pretty talented! It didn’t take long to realize that Jill was on the wrong side of this argument and that she was being unreasonable. I honestly thought that Jill would be the voice of reason during the argument between Luann and Ramona. It was clear to me that Luann was holding onto this little tidbit in order to throw it at Ramona the first time the cameras rolled. Jill, however, should have been the voice of reason, right? Jill knows Ramona better than anyone and everyone knows that Luann not only chose a bad time to bring up her complaint, but was bringing it up with the wrong person. Why didn’t Jill defuse instead of adding fuel to the fire?
We know why now, but at the time I thought, wow, Jill has changed. She’s never been on Ramona’s team but she used to be reasonable. This set the tone and Jill Zarin went downhill from there. She also began to gossip about Bethenny and her message to anyone who would listen. She spent her time on a luxury yacht sniping in Ramona’s friend’s ear about how cheap Ramona is. (look who’s talking) This, from a woman who thinks Ramona should give her a free choice of any jewelry piece she wants from Ramona’s new collection.
Everyone knows the rest of the story, how Jill treated Bethenny was beyond reprehensible. Her facial expressions are really what stood out to me the most. The horrible faces that she would make at just the sound of Bethenny’s voice, coupled with Luann’s constant eye rolls every time Bethenny’s name came up. This really was like watching two high school girls bullying one girl.
Bethenny isn’t perfect, we know that but she did not deserve the treatment by Jill. She seemed to at least try to do the right thing. She sent flowers when she heard that Bobby was having a procedure and the last thing she heard from Jill was that Bobby was ok. Further attempts on Bethenny’s part to contact Jill were ignored. I do wonder what, if any, the differences would have been had Luann not been in the picture throughout all of this. She seemed to feed into Jill’s plans to humiliate and destroy Bethenny.
Jill fans will say “destroy” is too strong a word, but after everything we learned at the reunion and knowing what we know Jill has done off screen, I think it is appropriate.
This is from Jill’s very first blog of the season:
Will I cringe watching the show? Of course I will. Will I want to put words back in my mouth? Who wouldn’t (or lies if they say they never would). But I am human and not perfect. I strive to be a better person and learn from my friends and sometimes my foes (a Kelly word!). Please don’t be harsh on any of us. He who throws stones…
Jill was preparing us for what was to come and by this time already knew that Bethenny was engaged and pregnant. She already knew that Bethenny had her own show and that she had burned enough bridges to be in a different state from Bethenny’s new show! This was well before she decided to play computer hacker on Amazon.com to slam Bethenny’s book as well as Alex’s. She wrote her own review of her own book under the name Susan Saunders and included saying that her mother had passed away as part of the review.
She wrote the above after having hit all the talk shows with Luann and Kelly who all slammed Bethenny every chance they got. She wrote this knowing exactly what happened all season.
By the end of the season, after part two of the reunion, Jill sent this message in her blog:
Self-reflection and growth is always important. I am proud of how I came full circle this season. I realized the things I could have done better and attempted to correct them or sincerely apologize for them where I could. But I ask you, where is the forgiveness? At what point are enough apologies enough? What else can a person do to right a wrong? Why some people’s apologies are fully accepted immediately, yet mine seem to be falling on deaf ears? I feel like the first two parts of this reunion all that you’ve heard me say is “I’m sorry.” While I certainly am sorry about many things, what did I do that was so egregious that these women just do not have in their hearts to forgive? Or at the very least put aside and move forward? Does it seem to you that there is more here than meets the eye?
If I’ve ever seen an apology that was insincere, it was this one. I noticed that she was careful not to use the word, “but”. If she had said, “I’m sorry, but…” she would have been criticized for an apology with an out clause. What she did say was, “While I certainly am sorry about many things….” That is the same thing as using “but” to me. The bottom line is she went on to make excuses and complain that no one wanted to forgive her.
Anyone who watched or was there would completely understand why her half assed apologies weren’t readily accepted. When both Alex and Ramona talked about Jill telling them not to film with Bethenny, the first thing Jill did was deny deny deny! Until she realized that with both Ramona and Alex saying the same thing and with all of the details, including Ramona revealing the producers calling her, Jill had every intention of lying her way through that. When she finally realized it, she emphasized that Bethenny did the same thing to Kelly, (asking others not to film with her) then Jill added her, “I was wrong, Bethenny, I apologize”! I really wanted someone at that point to point out to her that just moments before, she denied it…..Andy Cohen really was too easy on her! Partially thanks to Bethenny.
Does anyone think that Jill’s never ending apologies were sincere? When we hear reports of Jill hiring three PR professionals to “prep” her for the reunion, I tend to think that everything she said was scripted and/or lines given to her by these PR people. I think that includes her screaming at Alex, “Just because you say it, doesn’t make it true” and “Spread eagle in the hallway of your husband’s hotel”.
Just in case you still think that possibly Jill Zarin was truly sorry, she added this to her blog of the same date:
I have received so many letters from all of you that virtually beg me to stop apologizing. Well thank you for opening my eyes. I have apologized enough. I am going to be divine and forgive them for having such closed hearts.
Let’s explore who Jill may be talking about when she says she is going to forgive “THEM” for having closed hearts. She apologized to Ramona for her remarks during Ramona’s Tru-Renewal Launch party. Did Ramona say she didn’t forgive her? Ramona was inappropriate at Jill’s Kodak party so I get it, Jill was returning the favor because she was also upset with Ramona, Jill also used the excuse that she was trying to be funny and throw out some one liners like Bethenny does so successfully. Clearly Jill failed miserably!
Jill never once apologized to Alex, so she isn’t referring to Alex when she said “them”.
Jill apologized to Sonja for her nasty comment at the Bachelor party, Sonja not only accepted the apology but opened it up to all the women saying it was ok to bash her anytime, she has thick skin.
Jill apologized to Bethenny many, many times. Even with the multiple apologies from Jill to Bethenny, there were still more things that Jill needed to apologize for. We never saw Jill apologize for the rude phone call when Luann was listening. Since Amazongate never came up, Jill never apologized to Bethenny for leaving a bad review on Bethenny’s book. I’m sure there were plenty of others!
So if I get it right, Jill is referring to Bethenny and her closed heart. I don’t know about a closed heart, I watched Bethenny talk about the love for her newborn baby daughter and the last thing I would call Bethenny is “closed hearted” .
Since the season has ended Jill has continued her vendetta against Alex even throwing out a dare to Bravo. If they bring back Alex next season, Jill cannot come back. That is the best news I’ve heard all year! Nobody believes it, but I hope she’ll be eating that crow that Ramona was talking about next season.
Jill has unleashed the Kracken on Twitter with some over-zealous fans who have decided that attacking some of Jill’s haters as well as Alex and Simon. Since I’m enemy #1, I guess that makes me a target! Ah well, such is life. Jill’s people have not tweeted one word to Bethenny! This lead me to believe that Jill still has some hope that she can salvage something of a relationship with Bethenny.
There is also a nasty little dog that isn’t nearly as fun as our own @gingerzarin. This dog just growls at me and talks like a 2-year old child. I didn’t know that dogs talked like babies but apparently they do. Jill follows this growling menace and the growling menace follows me, breaking Jill’s rule, per her own rule, she should be blocking this new dog! I also noticed that Jill followed the dog before the dog tweeted anything, and while she says it is not her, and she said she isn’t paying anyone to do it. Sounds like she certainly knows who is doing it…..her faithful whipping boy, Darren?
So as I said, my prediction is that the awful, hateful, mean, vindictive, materialistic, narcissistic, lying, vicious, self-absorbed, bitch will be back next season. (I have more adjectives but you get the picture)
Note that when Andy Cohen was asked about the cast for next season, his response was, “hold tight until 2011” I asked Mr. Simon VanKempen if he knew what that meant, he said, “No f’n idea”. Since Bravo is adding two new housewife franchises, it is certainly possible that they may not film all of the ladies quite as often as they had in past years. With Atlanta and Beverly HIlls being filmed now, and DC airing next month they may have a full schedule right now. In addition Bravo has several other shows coming back, Rachel Zoe, Flipping Out, Disguisting Patti Stanger, and many others. Based on what Cohen said, they may not film NY housewives beginning around Labor Day this year.
Until Next Time….