An Open Letter to the Real Housewives and Husbands of Bravo by: LynnNChicago
The social media like Twitter and Facebook are excellent ways for you all to communicate with the fans of your prospective shows. I know that the majority of you use these tools to keep up with public opinion and to “hear” what fans are saying about you all but I think mostly it is a good tool for you to communicate with us.
I know better than anyone that there are rude, crude and vicious people out there, particularly on Twitter. Facebook is definitely a kinder, gentler forum. On Twitter, sometimes you just have to block people who are mean and are simply tweeting nasty, vicious things to you. If people are just going to call you names and are completely unreasonable, by all means block them. But that really should be the exception rather than the rule.
I have to give a lot of credit to you housewives and husbands who rarely block fans, even if their comments are less than complimentary. A great example of that is Jacqueline Laurita of New Jersey. During this past season, Jacqueline did some things that left fans a bit less than impressed. The stunt at the country club, yelling while screaming at Danielle her 25-year old crimes was not Jacqueline’s shining moment and I would bet that she regrets it.
I was not alone in calling Jacqueline out on her behavior, many of us had a hard time understanding Jacqueline’s actions and we tweeted our disapproval. Now here you might ask, who are you to call someone out on their behavior? Well, we’re fans of the show and the cast put themselves on TV, they open up their lives to fans and we’re expected to have an opinion, in fact Bravo hopes that we have strong opinions so that they get ratings. If fans were indifferent, there would be no viewers and no Housewives.
The reaction of the Housewives is really the key to their success, in my opinion. In my example, while Jacqueline was under fire from many fans, she didn’t just take the whole bunch of critical fans and block them. She read the tweets and in some cases she responded, in other cases she sent out a general tweet to everyone addressing fans concerns and still others, such as in my case, Jacqueline sent a personal private DM. I cannot tell you how much respect I had for Jacqueline at that moment.
Here was a fan that watches her show, was criticizing her behavior but she didn’t lash out, she didn’t even make excuses and she certainly didn’t block me, she sent me a private message and if her goal was to get me back in her corner, it worked!
Jacqueline made a promise to fans that she wouldn’t mention Danielle ever again, and while she wasn’t perfect, she really tried to do what fans wanted her to do and just let it go with the whole Danielle battle. In fact, Jacqueline’s actions at the reunion earned a lot of people’s respect.
This, ladies and gentlemen is how a good housewife/husband treats fans. Jacqueline is the perfect example of how to handle a bad situation and turn it into a positive.
On the other end of the spectrum, we have housewives like Kim Zolciak, Jill Zarin, Dina Manzo and Teresa Giudice who have the “Block” on both Twitter and Facebook on speed dial.
I really don’t mind being blocked by a housewife but I like to have earned the block. In the case of Jill Zarin, for example, while I don’t blame her for blocking me just based on the name of my blog, I really haven’t said anything to her on Twitter that wasn’t the complete truth or that wasn’t an opinion shared by many. I was never vulgar or foul mouthed, I don’t see the point in just swearing at people on Twitter, or anywhere for that matter.
If someone is just spewing vulgarity at someone, of course they’re going to be blocked.
In the case of Kim Zolciak, she had posted some of her clothing on Ebay, expensive designer gowns and shoes but it was obvious that she did it herself and had never posted on Ebay before because it was missing so much information. There was no size of anything, there was no mention of what the material was, and it was literally a photo of a dress with an absurdly high price tag. There was one designer gown listed for $10,000.
In my head, I really wanted to help Kim to improve her Ebay listings and so I tweeted to her that her listings “sucked” (ok I could have chosen a better word) but I went on to Tweet to her that she needs to add a whole lot of more information to her Ebay listings if she really wanted to sell her items. Needless to say, she blocked me.
Over the past several months since then, I’ve made a few attempts at trying to get Kim to unblock me but to no avail.
I really don’t think I earned the block by Teresa either, she would probably have as many followers as Bethenny if she didn’t block so many people. (Ok that is an exaggeration but you get my point). Teresa even tweeted at one point that she was going to block people with vulgar language and then went on to block dozens of Tweeters that said nothing vulgar at all, simply questioned what Teresa was saying. You probably guessed that this was the time when Teresa was bashing Bethenny on her BravoTV.com blog and on Twitter.
Teresa tweeted that Bethenny’s fans are disgusting and vulgar and anyone who swore at her would be blocked but she blocked people who simply defended Bethenny without using any profanity. However Teresa blocked many people that day, in fact she blocked everyone who disagreed with her and defended Bethenny whether they used profanity or not.
Blocking fans for these B list celebrities is really cutting their own throats, the more fans following them, the better obviously but it is not only that, I have learned that even though fans may not like a specific housewife, they will still talk about them. In fact many fans talk about the housewives they don’t like a whole lot more than the ones that they do like.
Believe it or not, Kelly Bensimon actually “got it” for a while, I did nothing but criticize her since I started using Twitter and at first she blocked me but then suddenly one day she not only unblocked me, but she followed me. I don’t know why it happened but it was actually a genius move because I was conscience of the fact that she was following me when I tweeted anything about her. I tended to give her the benefit of the doubt more often and even gave her a few compliments.
Suddenly one day it was as if the Columbia Education leaked out of her head and she went back to blocking me. (I should add that it wasn’t just me, she treated several fans the same way as she did me) I don’t know if Jill Zarin got to her or if maybe she was seeing too much negativity in her timeline by unblocking her critics but as soon as she blocked me again, I went back to being just as brutal to her as I did before. It wasn’t completely conscience either, I did have some respect for her having the guts to follow her critics so I laid off of her just a bit.
So what if all of the housewives just unblocked their critics, not the wack jobs who are vulgar and vile but those of us who just have critical things to say about their actions. Like Jacqueline Laurita, she now knows exactly what is being said about her by not only her die-hard fans, but by those of us who can be critical at times and don’t suck up but try to tell it like it is.
The newer housewives like Cynthia and Phaedra from Atlanta and all the DC and BH ladies don’t seem to block people as frequently as the veterans. Phaedra took a whole lot of criticism during her canned goods episode but still, she answered her critics or ignored them, but didn’t block everyone who had something negative to say to her.
With the exception of Camille Grammer who completely wiped out her Twitter account due to the amount of unfriendly tweets she was getting, even Taylor who is getting a lot of lip jokes hasn’t blocked a whole lot of people.
Its all in the way that they handle the critical tweets, but come on Housewives, stop blocking everyone!
Just a suggestion….
Until Next Time..