I Hate Jill Zarin Real Housewives of New York Preview – Kelly Bensimon
Many people agree that Kelly Bensimon should not be on a reality show, some say she shouldn’t be allowed to raise her children still others believe she should be in an institution or at least getting professional mental health therapy.
This season marks Kelly’s third on Real Housewives, she initially told viewers that she never watched the show, didn’t know anything about her cast mates and had no idea what she was getting into. Kelly’s ex-husband Gilles Bensimon has obviously signed off allowing his two daughters to appear on the show with their mother.
There must be something addictive about being a Bravo Housewife because if there was ever a housewife who should have quit to save herself and her family it is Kelly Bensimon.
Last season Kelly seemed to start off the season pretty normal even making peace with Bethenny and attending her Skinnygirl Margarita launch party. Kelly told Bethenny that she has no reason not to be nice yet told viewers that she’ll never trust her. That’s ok, had Kelly moved forward with that mindset all would have probably been alright.
Instead Kelly began to bring up the past, while she said she was forgetting and moving forward, Kelly brought up the Madonna remark and other previous conversations that apparently caused Kelly distress. Kelly truly believes in her mind that Bethenny had put her in the press with negative comments and even attacked Kelly’s children.
As Alex pointed out there is no evidence that Kelly’s children were ever mentioned in the press and there is certainly no proof that Bethenny put Kelly in the press.
However, at the Season Two Reunion of The Real Housewives of New York, Andy Cohen read from an article where Kelly completely bashes Bethenny, then at the Season Three Reunion Kelly says that she’s never mentioned Bethenny in the press. Ding Dong! Is Kelly home?
As the season continued Kelly butted heads with Ramona at Jill’s Kodak event, another argument started by Kelly as she attempted to defend Jill. Give it up Kelly, there is no defense for Jill and you don’t have the wits or intelligence to go up against anyone in defense of Jill Zarin.
It seemed as though Kelly was firmly placed in the good graces of both Jill and Luann but remained neutral with Alex and Sonja so when the St. John vacation came up and Jill and Luann both declined to attend, it was a bit surprising that Kelly agreed to go. Of course Kelly insists that Bravo forced her to go. I would still love to know how they did that.
We know that there was a lot of infighting over this trip, we know that Jill wanted to be the hostess of a Housewives trip during Season Three and that she refused to go to St. John because it was a trip in honor of Ramona Singer. Bravo refused to bankroll Jill’s trip and only supported the St. John trip that they organized. Jill and Luann both refused to attend and didn’t seem to suffer any major Bravo punishment, Andy Cohen announced in no uncertain terms on Twitter and again at the reunion that Kelly was NOT forced to go, yet Kelly continues to insist that Bravo forced her to go to St. John. Ok, moving on.
In St. John Kelly clearly had a breakdown of some sort, there has been speculation that drugs may have been involved, possibly a reaction to overindulging in alcohol or that it was a major brain malfunction.
Overdose of Jelly Beans or Gummy Bears? What the hell happened to Kelly?
We all watched what Bravo decided to show us and it was pretty bad but we’ve heard from all of the other women who were there that it was ten times worse than what we saw. What did they mean by that? Originally the impression that was given was that Kelly did even more bizarre things but Bethenny walked back a bit from that statement at the reunion by simply saying it was the same thing we saw times ten.
Details of Kelly’s removal from St. John started to leak and we know that she didn’t leave on her own as was shown on television. Ramona read a letter on-screen that was supposedly written by Kelly herself saying she had to get back to New York to care for her children. We later learned from Bethenny and Alex that Kelly was determined to be unfit to film any longer and was escorted back to New York by a Shed Media producer.
Kelly did have problems while away with her nanny, sources revealed that Kelly spent a lot of time on the phone with her girls and with the nanny as things weren’t going well at home. I heard a story about the Housewives having to return to the airport to be filmed arriving on St. John (film that ended up on the editing floor). They initially arrived in the middle of the night, too dark to film and the film crew was unavailable so they were all taken back to the airport so that their arrival on St. John could be on film.
During this car ride back to the airport Kelly got on the phone with her nanny and got into a bit of a screaming match with her. That doesn’t exactly give you confidence to enjoy the rest of your vacation as this woman is responsible for your two young daughters. Could this have contributed to Kelly’s issues? More reports of the night of Bethenny’s dinner party, not only did Kelly run back and forth into the house and back out to the terrace several times (we only saw it happen once on-screen) but her reasons for coming back that she communicated to the other Housewives was that she knew that they were talking about her while she was gone so she returned back to the dinner party to stop them from gossiping about her.
Kelly uses words like, “literally” and “actually” in the wrong context frequently, she said that Bethenny “Literally” tried to kill her. That is a serious accusation. Is Kelly accusing Bethenny of attempted murder? Really? Kelly said that Bethenny actually went after her little girls. Kelly was never able to substantiate any of her accusations against Bethenny and most people wrote them off as the rantings of a mad woman.
Kelly was seen harassing Bethenny on several occasions on the St. John trip, her constant attacks about Bethenny’s career as a chef, calling Bethenny a ho-bag, giving her a hard time about being away so soon after her father’s death and the constant unproven accusations that Bethenny was out to get her.
Kelly is seen on the phone with Jill Zarin telling her that Bethenny was in her face and said to Kelly, “you are not all that!”. We didn’t see that and I suppose it is possible that Bravo didn’t air that but this is the kind of thing that Bravo lives for so if it happened, I think we would have seen it.
Kelly’s appearance in Playboy was quite the public scam and embarrassment for Kelly. When it was announced that Kelly would grace the cover of Playboy it was also announced that the photos were taken by none other than the best photographer in the universe, Kelly’s ex-husband Gilles Bensimon. The fact is that the photos that appeared in Playboy were taken by Gilles Bensimon but they were taken several years prior to this while the two were still married. They had submitted the photos to Playboy in hopes that they would be published. At the time, Playboy passed on the opportunity to print the photos.
Once Kelly became a Real Housewife, Playboy decided to print the photos but somehow Bravo and Kelly decided to try to fool the public and film a pretend photo shoot of Kelly posing for Playboy. Those scenes we saw on The Real Housewives were clearly not Gilles Bensimon taking the photos and the photos that were taken in the Bravo films were not in Playboy Magazine.
Kelly appeared on talk shows and in magazines saying how flattered that she was for Playboy to print photos of her 40-year old body but in fact the photos that Playboy printed were of her 20-something year old body. It is clear looking at the photos that they are not recent pictures. No one has ever questioned Kelly about this, of course Bravo was in on the scam so Cohen isn’t going to bring it up.
Add to the strange situation was the scene on the show as we watched Kelly awkwardly talk to her two daughters about appearing nude in Playboy Magazine. There was no doubt that the girls, particularly her younger daughter, Teddy was not happy about it, she said, “when you have your shirt on, I’m ok with it”. Kelly misunderstood many things that her children said and they scrambled to re-word things so that Kelly could understand. I can only imagine what it is like to be Kelly Bensimon’s teenage daughter. I really feel for these two girls.
The Real Housewives of New York City Season 3 – Mommy’s in Playboy – Video – Bravo TV Official Site http://t.co/7aGcrjZ via @bravotv
After Season Two of the Real Housewives of New York completed airing Kelly took to her Twitter account to bash Bravo, she had mini Twitter wars with Andy Cohen, she called the show “Bad TV” and continued to insist Bravo forced her to go to St. John. If anyone in a real job would have done what Kelly did, they would have been fired on the spot.
Kelly Bensimon’s Twitter Meltdown During Real Housewives of New York City Finale – http://tvontherocks.com/2010/06/kelly-bensimons-twitter-meltdown-during-real-housewives-of-new-york-city-finale/
We all know that Kelly makes her life public on the show but she also fills in the gaps on Twitter, between tweeting where she is, what she is doing, photos of herself all around the country she also films herself doing things in You-tube videos, things like replacing her toilet seat. Who knew it was that easy? Seriously Kelly?
Kelly told viewers that she spends 80% of her time with her children. I have to call her out on that for several reasons, not the least of which is that they’re in school full time so she has her days free for 9 months of the year. She also attends a whole lot of events, club openings, movie premiers and parties not only in New York but around the country. Based on her Twitter account, during the past 5 months Kelly has done a lot of traveling and the majority of it was without her children.
Kelly Bensimon Schedule
Oct 19 – Ft Lauderdale, FL
Nov 5 – Las Vegas, NV
Nov 24 – South Carolina
Nov 30 – Boston MA
Dec 1 – Miami FL
Jan 5 – Atlantic City NJ
Jan 11 – Los Angeles CA
Feb 12 – Palm Beach FL
Feb 15 – Haiti
Feb 25 – Aspen CO
March 12 – Miami FL
In Kelly’s defense, her children did join her at a family gathering in South Carolina for Thanksgiving and I believe they may have joined her for at least one of these vacations, possibly more. This is not all inclusive of all of Kelly’s trips only the one’s she has mentioned on Twitter.
Kelly’s estimation of spending 80% of her time with her children is an extreme over-exaggeration, very few mothers are able to up and leave their children this frequently.
Some of Kelly’s quotes:
Asked about Cindy Barshop, RHONY newest cast member,
“I didn’t give advice to Cindy. To be honest, I met her and thought she was amazing. She’s just a cool girl. Her story is even cooler: Her mother had cancer, she started her own business, she is so close with her family, she has two beautiful babies and she’s a really strong woman.”
Did Kelly say advice? Who would take advice from this woman? Unless you want to find out how to make a complete fool of yourself on screen, avoid any of Kelly’s advice.
Asked about the upcoming season, Kelly said:
“I’m not with the drama parade. My whole way of thinking this season is just stretching my boundaries and talking to all of the women about how they can navigate well and supporting everyone. I actually told them all that ‘none of you will ever be in a situation like I was. I will make sure of it, or make sure that no one here feels left out of feels like they are being ambushed or bullied. I may not like you, but I will stand behind you all the way. For me this season, what is really important is that this is an aspirational season. This is what New York looks like. New York is smoking hot, they’re cool, they are educated, they are sexy, they are funny and they are friends. When I was growing up in Illinois, this is what I wanted to come to.”
This is what a 42-year-old woman on crack sounds like folks! Kelly makes no sense, she talks about not allowing anyone to be bullied, she has no idea what the definition of “Bully” is, she wasn’t bullied on the show Kelly did the bullying. Telling people to “zip it” when they’re trying to talk, saying it is all “white noise” constantly interrupting people at a dinner table, walking into a cocktail party talking on a cell phone, and the list goes on…
“Bethenny is a very nice person, I really have no animosity towards her. I only filmed with her the couple of times that you guys saw on television and we created awesome TV. It wasn’t what you guys see it as — she’s a great character, we had so much fun filming and I wish her well with all her endeavors.”
This all sounds freakishly familiar as Kelly continually told fans of the show that everyone was acting except her, remember her calling the show “Dynasty”? She claimed that she was the only one being authentic. Later she invited a viewer to join her on “the set” while filming the show to prove it is all just creating good television. I wonder if Kelly really does think her show has “a set”.
When asked about her many multitude of contradictory behavior, Kelly laughed and said, “its all ok, its just fun reality television”. She really doesn’t get it. In Kelly’s case contradiction isn’t just changing your mind about not eating processed foods then the next day eating jelly beans and gummi bears. Kelly’s contradictions are so absolutely insane that many are concerned about her mental health.
Her delusional world includes her truly believing that PETA is perfectly fine with her wearing fur. She is quoted as saying, “PETA isn’t saying don’t wear fur, they’re saying don’t abuse animals”. Do you think that Kelly really has no idea how fur coats are made? Kelly’s fur coat was made with only minks that died of natural causes. Remember that this woman is the primary caregiver to two young girls.
Kelly Bensimon is so jealous of Bethenny that in her own cheap, no-class way she attempts to copy everything that Bethenny does. Bethenny’s brand includes healthy recipes, a fitness video and a low-calorie cocktail all under the “Skinnygirl” brand.
Kelly created a cocktail too, Bethenny’s was bottled and sold, Kelly tweeted her’s out to fans. Kelly created a 7-day diet plan, Bethenny’s healthy eating plan was put out into a #1 Bestselling book, Kelly’s was placed on her kitchen table, was not appropriately healthy and was explained in a you-tube video then tweeted out to fans. Kelly created fitness tips, Bethenny’s was released in a professional video called, “Body by Bethenny”, Kelly demonstrates incorrect and sometimes even dangerous yoga moves on You-tube videos and tweets them out to fans. Kelly uses the hash tag #KellyFit so that you can find them easily on Twitter.
Bethenny’s meals and fitness video’s are reviewed and approved by a licensed physician, nutritionist and Yoga expert. Kelly’s clearly were not.
Kelly has taken her brand a step further and she now takes photos and videos of her do-it-yourself projects at home and tweets those out with the hashtag #KellyDYI. I really don’t know why they don’t give Kelly her own show. She could teach people how to replace a toilet seat and paint a wall. I’ll bet Bethenny wishes she would have expanded to include home maintenance projects. Kelly is a genius.
If this Twitter Hashtag project of Kelly’s is her attempt to build her brand it only makes her look more pathetic. Kelly is making a ridiculous attempt to do what Bethenny is doing but it is only making her pathetic. As Bethenny says, “Go big or go home” Kelly, go home!
Here’s a great article about Kelly, it talks about her wardrobe malfunction when her breast popped out of her top on a runway.
I don’t typically talk much about Housewives fashion but Kelly’s is so unique (read odd) that I thought you might like to see some of her more recent outfits:
Kelly appeared on The View yesterday along with her cast mates, Jill, Cindy, Ramona and Alex. Kelly’s obsession with Bethenny continues to come through even a year later. Kelly brings up Bethenny right out of the gate. You can view it here:
theviewtv The View – Behind the Scenes
Both Jill Zarin and Kelly Bensimon talk extensively about Bethenny while on The View, is this a preview of what is to come on RHONY? Is this like the girl who falls asleep first at the slumber party is the girl they all gossip about. Bethenny’s gone so she will get talked about and all the blame for everything that goes wrong or went wrong in the past!
Kelly’s Twitter war with Andy Cohen:
The Real Housewives of New York premier’s on Thursday at 10pm/9pm Central on Bravo.
Pregnant in Heels by Quincy IL
Rosie Pope is a maternity concierge/guru who helps wealthy mothers in NYC prepare for the birth of their children. Rosie and two assistants run a 24 hour a day maternity concierge business on the UES in Manhattan. They serve million dollar mammas that pay thousands and thousands of dollars for preschools where their children use finger paints. The mothers also pay thousands of dollars for maternity clothes. Rosie calls them rich bitches with babies inside. She is willing to serve their every need because they are “Pregnant in Heels.”
Rosie has a store that sells maternity clothes and baby supplies on Madison Ave and at another location she has a prep school which has classes for the care of infants and how to use the baby equipment. Some mothers hire Rosie to come to their homes for specific tasks.
Sara and John live in a modern Tribeca apartment. Sarah feels no connection to her nine month old male fetus. She refers to the baby as a life sucking parasite. The couple does not want their apartment to look like a Baby Depot so they hire Rosie Pope to help them design a nursery that will not look like a nursery. Rosie tells us in an interview that babies love color, light and sounds.
Rosie gives a baby IQ test to all of her mothers. The first question was, “How long does it take for the umbilical cord to fall off?” Sara guessed one week. The answer is one to three weeks and after that you can give the baby a bath. Rosie discusses projectile vomiting and mentions that if the smell is like milk, it is ok.
Rosie asks the couple if she can look at their home. Sara tells us that she wants to show the house as she thinks it’s fantastic. They go to the guest room and there is a large bed with a changing table and a cardboard box containing the unassembled crib. Rosie is disturbed by the lack of preparation and tells us that they don’t have a way to bring the baby home from the hospital as they have no car seat or stroller. There is only 4 weeks left until delivery of their son and they have done nothing.
The father, John, states that he grew up in the 70s and he knew that he was not the center of his parents’ universe. He knew that he was just along for the ride. The mother, Sara, said that she is not bonded to the unborn son. She doesn’t talk to her belly and she has no relationship to her fetus. Rosie tells us the baby should be the center of their universe.
Samantha and Mitch have called Rosie’s office for help in naming their third child, a boy. Samantha is a bestselling author who specializing in branding and Mitch the father is NY’s author of the year. They go to fashion shows and parties where they speak to Mayor Bloomberg and Tom Brokow. They have two small daughters named Ella and Ruby. They want a marquee name for their baby boy. When they were looking for their daughter’s names they used a list of 12,000 names and spent time on a beach discussing each name. This time, they want Rosie’s help to get top experts and a focus group to suggest and then consider the names for their baby. Rosie said, “Holy moly,” but the mom is very sure that this is the process that she wants to follow and seems to think it will be great fun.
Rosie takes Sarah and John shopping for baby necessities like furniture and clothes. Sarah tries to fold an easy to fold stroller, but her 4 inch heels are a problem. She is not giving up her heels for any baby or stroller. Sara doesn’t like the word, “techno.” They find a rocker in a print and Sarah sits in it. She likes the pattern and babies enjoy looking at patterns also. Rosie teases the couple with a giant pink bear and they would prefer a set of blocks.
Rosie tells the Think Tank that Samantha and Mitch want a high class name for their son. There is a list of specialists: the senior marketing director of Landor, a linguistics expert, the owner of a baby name blog, a poet, and the director of the small world social network. Rosie’s assistant is there because he is extremely creative.
Samantha explains, they do not want a name with J, E, or R as the initial. The name cannot be decorative so not “Apple.” The couple doesn’t seem to like many of the names that are offered. Rosie explains that they really don’t want anyone else’s opinion. When Rosie says, she loves the name, Wynn, Samantha tells us that they are there for the opinions of experts and Rosie is only the concierge maternity advisor so Rosie should not contribute. There are some names that make it out of the session: Tucker, Miles, Holden, Bowen, Asher and Bode.
Rosie takes Dr. Ryan, a clinical psychologist/therapist to see Jason and Sara. The couple asks what kind of doctor Dr. Ryan is. They seem upset that Rosie brought a therapist and Sara tells us that she is hormonal and about to throw the doctor and Rosie out of her house. Rosie explains and Jason says that they should give it a go.
Rosie shares her observations of the couple and she tells them that their house would not pass an inspection that would allow the baby to come into their home if they were a part of the charity dealing with mother with drug problems whose babies have been taken away from them. Again, the parents are not happy, but they listen. Rosie tells them that they are intelligent, but they have used their intelligence to postpone preparation for the baby and this is not normal. Sara said she is not gushy while she tries to defend her statements from Rosie’s previous meetings. The doctor asks Sara if she is anxious. She admits that she is frequently anxious. The doctor tells Sara that her coping skills are not effective in this instance. He explains that she has experiential avoidance. She doesn’t like the anxiety so she tries to avoid it, but you can’t avoid the fact that she is nine months pregnant any longer. Rosie explains that the parents are scared and many new parents are scared. Sara and John begin to understand their issues and that is the first step to parenting.
Rosie is home in her apartment with her husband and young son. Rosie was lucky to have a son as she has a divided uterus which caused her to have difficulties in the delivery of her son. She is taking injections 3 or 4 times a day for infertility treatments and she cries when she speaks of her desire to have a second child.
We return to the name search and the focus group for Samantha’s son. The parents and Rosie watch from a room with a large window. The focus group has a mirror on their side. The mother compares the search for her son’s name to the search for the name of toothpaste product with a large smile on her face.
There are names not included on the parents’ list so they can have the option of other names during the discussion. The parents are not happy because the focus group does not like all of their favorites so now Rosie is asked to create a dinner part for their friends to discuss the names again.
At Rosie’s office, her creative assistant is dressing a pregnant mannequin and we learn that a “Queen Victoria” is an American “camel toe.”
Rosie and her assistant set up the nursery at Sara and John’s apartment. The parents love the room. There is a polar bear rocker. The stroller is there. The crib is set up. The colors of the room are gray, but some shelves are red. Rosie purchases a baby jungle gym with bright colors and told Sara that she really needs this for the baby. Sara sits in the patterned rocker and seems content. Rosie thinks that Sara is changing for the better.
At the dinner party for the baby name of Samantha’s son, no one seems to like Samantha’s baby names and they are not afraid to say that don’t like the names. Samantha gives some names that she had in the beginning and Rosie said they are back to first base. One friend said that name Asher was snobby and Samantha looked shocked. Rosie said that Samantha and Mitch don’t value their friends’ opinions.
3 weeks later, Rosie goes to Sara and John’s condo to meet Fox, a beautiful and healthy baby boy. The parents play with their baby and the mother was surprised that she took to motherhood so quickly. The father kisses his baby and laughs. They purchased and under the sea baby jungle gym, but Fox prefers the red one that Rosie bought.
Rosie goes to see Samantha’s son and he too is a healthy baby. The name of their son is Bowen Asher Jacobs. They made their name decision after Samantha’s water broke. They took the names that no one liked except them. Bowen Asher Jacobs will run for the Presidency of the US in 2052.
Thank you Quincy for that great recap of Bravo’s newest offering. Lynn~
My comments on “Pregnant In Heels” by LynnNChicago
These two pregnant women that we met tonight clearly have more money than sense. Yes, I know, old bad saying but so true when it comes to this show. People with money will pay someone to do almost anything. Next we’ll be hearing about someone being paid to carry and deliver the baby…oops wait, sorry Camille Grammer. That service already exists.
Couple number one on the show had some strange ideas, they didn’t seem to want to change their lifestyle for the baby but I did relate to Husband #1 when he said he was raised with the thought that “Children are seen but not heard”. They are not meant to rule the house. It is very “Sound of Music” but this couple took it to the extreme. They didn’t want to decorate the baby’s room in a way that didn’t flow with the decor of the home. I think the underlying issue was that they didn’t want to change their lifestyle and couldn’t seem to deal with what was about to happen.
Instead of dealing with it, they just ignored it and by 8 month’s along it was time to do something to prepare. They had no baby clothes, no diapers, a crib still in the box but the hero comes in with a Therapist to save the day.
This couple should have cut out the middle man and gone directly to therapy.
The other couple knew what was coming as this was their third child and a child’s name is important but a focus group? A think tank? Its beyond! The best part is after paying for all of those “professional” opinions, they went with their own favorite name anyway.
In both cases Rosie Pope proved to expectant moms that they really don’t need her after all. She is filming her way right out of a career.
Good luck with this one Bravo, I’m not sure another Rachel Zoe/Millionaire Matchmaker type show about pregnant women is going to fly. I’m anxious to hear what everyone reading this thinks. Leave your comments, please!
Thank you to Harvey for this link, it ties together one of the expectant mother’s from Pregnant In Heels with Real Housewives of New York as the mom to be interviews Kelly Bensimon.
Ramona Singer hosted a viewing party for the Real Housewives of New York premier last night –
My latest Associated Content blog is posted, please take a look:
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Terry Aley posted an interesting blog, nice work my friend! Follow him on Twitter @RawVeggies http://tinyurl.com/3vzcxs6
Bethenny Frankel made some pretty big news yesterday. She appeared on Imus In The Morning and was careful not to trash Jill Zarin even though Jill was quick to slam Bethenny when she and her sister Lisa Wexler appeared on Imus a few weeks ago. Imus wasn’t impressed with the sisters and seemed a bit put out that Mommy Gloria didn’t join her daughters on Imus’ show because of her “no flying in March” rule. Imus even said he didn’t like the “Vibe” of Jill Zarin
You can listen here:
Rumors flew about Bethenny getting her own talk show yesterday as well. When Bethenny appeared on The Ellen Show last week, Ellen made a comment about working with Bethenny that sparked many questions. Was Ellen simply referring to Bethenny’s regular appearances on The Ellen Show or was there more to that comment? Well if unconfirmed reports are true, we will soon see Bethenny as the host of her very own talk show.
A really long blog today, if you’re still with me, bless you and thank you! 🙂
Until Next Time…